About 4 years ago we took in my brother in law because he was making his parents life hell by treating them badly. We then moved across the country taking him with us specifically choosing a larger house to rent so we would have room for him too, then we found out we were having a baby so found him a flat and helped him move out before we had our first. He did really well and seemed happy in his flat, he would come and visit often and would seem to be enjoying his independent life although he was still being bank rolled by his mum and dad. Then one day he turned up and told us because he hadn't allowed them in for an inspection he was being thrown out of his flat, he then just expected to move back in with us and after speaking to his parents they didn't suggest another option. Now we are here 6 months down the line and we are expecting our second so told him he has to find a real job now and a flat and he retreated in on himself, would wait until we were asleep to come downstairs and use the kitchen and eat all our food. He didn't speak to us for 4 months of that time he lived with us. Eventually my dh went into his room to try and ask him what he was planning on doing when he moved out at the end of November and he ignored both of us and wouldn't respond as well. Then dh saw that there was mould growing on the windowsill and the condensation in the room was so bad it was dripping down the walls so dh cleared his room out to try and properly clean it and told him he could find a hotel that night, he ran away,leaving everything here, the next morning and then we discovered he had flown to Amsterdam dumping his car in the airport car park and leaving us with washing that hadn't been done for 6 months. We had to go and pick the car up from the airport for his parents and they said as well that we could do his washing too. Whilst doing it the other day he had actually left his underwear in a horrific state so much so it made me physically sick. Aibu to be really annoyed that we (me and dh) are expected to do his washing and clean the mould off his suitcases he hasn't bothered cleaning for months as if he is my child according to his parents?
Apologies for the length but I haven't been able to vent this anger I have been feeling since he absconded!
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Vintagelovingmum · 02/12/2019 16:58
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