To be anxious

[Starryskye]

Hi all bear with me,

So my family and another family were all best mates and despite a few selfish moments on the other families side everything was fine. Me and the eldest girl had already fallen out due to an unknown reason to band so we didn't talk anymore.

This family tried to destroy my family's lives. The mom of other fam lied saying my parents raped her. In actual fact they had a tipsy threesome with photo evidence to prove it was consensual and she was smiling in pics etc. They told everyone in our small village so we had to move. Their eldest daughter told everyone at work (works with my mum) so she had to leave work because of bullying and gossip. Second eldest daughter of other family has caused several problems of similar nature to me mainly about gossip etc (no rape accusations) and resulted in huge fall out. She is in a long distance relationship with my bfs bro and they don't see each other much. However me and bf decided not to have her around our child so there's no negativity around child and because I'm still very hurt and angry for my family.

As I said the second eldest is going out with my bfs brother and they're now engaged. Aibu to not go to anything she's at including wedding stuff etc or even be in same room as her?

[Starryskye]

How will the fiancée be grateful for me staying away? What exactly have I done? 🤔

I said above rape should be taken seriously, do you not think that as someone who was raped I freaking get that?! Don't try to preach to me about that when I've been there, right?!

I'm not saying that it's not serious, I get how messed up and serious all of this is but you don't know the situation and neither do I so stop presuming it's true or false as I don't care for your opinions. I'm only asking for AIBU and the responses of aggression and accusation proves to me I'm right with the anxiety

[Starryskye]

I knew my bf and his family will probably start to hate me but I didn't expect that MN would start too. I never wanted to argue and I never wanted to be in this situation now I feel like I'm guilty for something. I'm sorry for upsetting you all. I get why you don't like me. I won't keep replying, I'm sorry. I didn't want to seem like I was getting at any of you or anything like that, I just wanted to try and explain my situation.

[WorraLiberty]

Fair point Butchy, oops!

How will the fiancée be grateful for me staying away? What exactly have I done?

You haven't done anything

She believes your parents raped her mother. You believe they didn't.

She's marrying into your boyfriend's family, so it's pretty obvious she'd be grateful if you stayed away from her.

Wouldn't you be, in her position?