To ask how people cope with feelings of despair?

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I'm having a difficult time at the moment. I got married in the summer and we split up recently because we both realised it was a mistake (it was rushed because of a terminal diagnosis of one of my parents)

Even though he ended it after we both realised it wasn't right as we wanted vastly different things that we stupidly didn't properly discuss beforehand I feel tremendous guilt and regret over the whole thing and I'm experiencing anxiety like never before. I've always had anxiety but I feel horrific, for going ahead with it when I had major doubts, for saying those vows in church :( I don't know how to pull myself out of this and I feel like I'm always going to feel this way. I know people probably won't have been through this exact situation but has anyone done things they deeply regret and how do you move past it?

I would add that if my symptoms returned I wouldn’t hesitate to return to the meds. I have a small stash left over and they feel like having a safety blanket.

I would add that if my symptoms returned I wouldn’t hesitate to return to the meds.

Me too. My depression was an accumulative thing. Seasonal Adjustment Disorder played a part - I live in the North of Scotland. I take care of myself more now (Vit D, SAD lamps, etc) but if I was hit with something traumatic and unexpected that tipped me over again I wouldn't hesitate.

Thank you both, I think I should give them a try as I cannot remember the last time I felt like myself or when I was last not worried about something. Can I ask what type you used specifically? Just wondering if some are better for anxiety than others

Actually I can't remember - some form of Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) but I can't for the life of me remember a name or dosage.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/ssri-antidepressants

You will still feel like you on the medication. They just take the edge off. They’re definitely worth a try.

Citalapram in my case. 20mg which I dropped to 10mg within months. For context I think it can be prescribed as high as 40mg.
My DD is also on it currently. Makes us sound like a Right pair of flakes. But like me I can see her returning to her proper self. Once that’s embedded and her brain has properly remembered itself she’ll do the same as me. We shared the same traumatic experience by the way and I think that and other factors that affect young women have caused her priblems

Thank you, I'm going to go to the gp, anything has to be worth trying at this stage I think. Thanks everyone x