To come to aibu to ask for advice?

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I hope I'm not BU, I just know this board gets a lot of traffic.

I have heard something about a long time friend of mines (let's call her Sarah) new partner. It's bad. Myself and two friends know we have to tell her but don't know how.

I haven't seen "sarah" in a couple of years but we would still be there for each other at the drop of a hat if needed. But this obviously makes it more difficult having not been in touch.

What do we do? Please help

It seems to be a lot of she said/ they said. You can't speak out on behalf of another without their say so. If it means putting someone at potential risk of reprisals, then you need to tread carefully.
There's also the strong possibility that you may not be believed, that leaves you all out of the scenario. Unless you have difinitve proof, and the cooperation of the person who was assaulted I would think twice. You may make the situation worse.

The person who was assaulted has asked us to let Sarah know!!

I'm aware this all sounds a bit unnecessary but it's not just random people to me. Sarah and Zoe are among about 6 people who I would count as my friends. When my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer they were 2 of 6 people I needed to tell, when I got married a couple of years ago we only invited 30 people and they were both very close to the top of the list and both came despite having short notice and their own serious issues at the time. When my exh left me Sarah came, she stayed, she cooked, she slept on my sofa, she was amazing.
If ANYTHING happens to her at the hands of this bloke we would never forgive ourselves.

Laura has tried to contact Sarah herself and, as she wasn't successful, has asked you and Zoe to step in. I don't see why you can't name Laura, now.

All you can do is get together with Sarah (with Zoe too?) and have a conversation. I'd probably start with the Facebook contact / blocking (ask her if she knows Laura and why she blocked her), and take it from there.

Tell sarah - 100%. Tonight. Now.

I'm assuming that Laura wants to be kept out of it now because he may well have told Sarah something to make her disbelieve what ever Laura says?

Firstly it was about protecting Laura's identity because she was afraid of this man and his family.

Then you say Laura has tried to contact Sarah herself.

Now you say he may have told Sarah something to make Laura seem unbelievable (as evidenced by Sarah blocking her) so Laura wants to be kept out of it after all.

Whichever way you look at it, Laura's identity is out there. Just have the conversation.

But you don't know Laura. You said you didn't even know her name.
How can you decide if she is credible? People can lie about these things as you intimated jealous ex, crazy etc all things Sarah's bf could say because they could be true.
I think you risk ruining your relationship with Sarah if you go in with half a story from a friend of a friend. Who is going to believe?Her bf who comes up (may already have) with a plausible explanation or you who despite being a good friend have no proof and don't even know the woman?

Support Sarah as best you can, perhaps try and keep in more regular contact. But don't tell her. Leave that to Zoe or Laura.

To be honest men like this get away with shit because woman refuse to report them. The men don’t change, they just find another victim.

She needs to report him.

The person who was assaulted has asked us to let Sarah know!!
I think given the updates, just contact her and ask to meet for coffee and tell her frankly and directly

Laura has asked Zoe to tell her. Laura tried to herself but was blocked. Zoe should do as Laura asks.

I don't see the conundrum.