Want to split up but he doesn't take me seriously

[Girlwhocriedwolf]

I feel really stupid and know I’m partly to blame for this, feel like the boy who cried wolf. Been with DP for 3 years now, we don’t live together, but close. We’ve been having problems for the past year, and I’ve told him I want to split up, but every time I do he would ask to speak about things, he’ll say stuff and it will make me rethink and we’re back on again. It’s been like this for a year now, he’s lazy and full of empty words. But I love him, and when he asks to speak about things, I just think ‘I’ll give him another chance to prove himself’. But same thing happens again two weeks later and we’re back to square one with me wanting to split up.

I’ve said I want to split up 8 times in the past year, and it’s gone to the point now where he doesn’t really take me seriously. Texted him yesterday I was done, he ignored my message all day, then at midnight sent me a picture. I know I have to go through with it now, and distance myself from him. Hopefully the message will get through. Don’t know why I’m writing this, just want to get it off my chest really.

Yes you have told him, if he doesn’t take you seriously just cut contact and block and be thankful you don’t live together

My ex was the same. I stupidly just stayed each time and then I was so fed up of the lack of respect he gave me by not taking me seriously that I just waited for him to leave for work one day, out what I could in the boot of my car and left and never saw him again.

We only spoke to deal with selling the house and that was done over email. I couldn’t trust him at all

He's good reason to think you mean it because you back down every time.

its time to get tough.
Don't respond to him (unless there's DCs involved and in that case ONLY about them).

Block him
If he comes round don't let him in

Then show him you’re serious.

Do something unpredictable, to break the current pattern.

Book a holiday for yourself, without talking it through with him first.

Or, in my case, in a similar situation to you, I bought a car without asking his advice..

It sounds random, but try being unpredictable, and see how that shakes things up.

Pack his things (if he has any at yours) and arrange a time for him to collect them.

When he asks to talk, tell him you've talked for 3 years and nothing has improved so the time for talking is done.

Stop talking and see it through. List out the things you want to do and do them.