To think this is a reasonable counter argument?

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

DM always seems to enjoy being aghast at the fact that dh and I usually eat out with the kids once a week. Apparently it is frivolous and costly. It's usually a local pizza pasta place and the whole bill is around £30.

She does not understand at all that it's relatively common to eat out or buy lunch on a day trip or have a take away more than once a year.

My counter argument that I have yet to vocalise, is that growing up, she and my dad went out every Saturday night. They would go to the local bars and get home around midnight (Granny babysat me). So the money element of her argument is nullified as she and dad spent money on a night out every week so what's wrong with us spending a third on food with the kids. And surely Saturday nights out are frivolous in their nature?

I'd never want it to come as a judgement, I couldn't give a shiny shite if they had a regular night out together/with friends each week.

But I'm getting to the point where I feel this needs highlighting in order to get her to back off about the judgement she shows in how we spend our weekends.

As my Nan used to say " unless I'm asking you to pay for it, mind your own business "

Unless you are going to say you are living beyond your means and confiding in your mother that you are skint, it's really non of her business