My nearly 10 year old has always sought out older friends. She’s very bright but no more physically or emotionally mature than anyone else her age. In some ways she’s actually quite naive - too trusting. She has a heavily monitored iPod where she can message friends, knowing I will check absolutely everything she writes and receives.
She has a year 7 friend at an activity. She’s 11. That friend has a boyfriend. In some ways it’s very innocent - she’s nervous about a date at McDonald’s today. In others it’s far too advanced for an 11 year old - she told my daughter he’d touched her boobs (bigger than mine apparently, not tricky) and shuddered.
I don’t want my daughter being involved in this. How do I handle it? Most interaction is at this once a week activity. The organisers are hot on safeguarding and could separate them i am sure. But am I right to intervene?
This week she (and another girl my daughters age who should know better) dared my daughter to ‘ask our’ her best male friend. The same age friend has form for nasty behaviour and the way she did it made me think she knew my daughter would look a dick. Daughter told me, and I explained it was a cruel request and she should not to it. It would make her (male) friend feel awkward and probably reject the friendship due to embarrassment. She didn’t do it but I do think this older girl’s premature adult style relationship is creeping into my daughters psyche and I don’t like it. What would you do?