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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be pissed off at DH?

14 replies

Whodoyoutrust · 30/11/2019 10:15

The sleep deprivation and mild hangover are making me a bit ragey so before DH gets up I thought I'd put it to the Mumsnet jury.

A few weeks ago my team were nominated for an award and invited to the ceremony which was last night. I'm currently on maternity leave but was also invited and it doubled as the Christmas party. I wasn't planning on going as everyone was drinking and I co-sleep with DD (10months) so wouldn't drink but would want to. DH said go, drink, he'd do night shift with DD and I could have a lie in. So I went, I ate, I drank, I danced, we won the award! This is my second evening out alone since getting pregnant with DD.

I got home slightly drunk, got handed the baby as she needed a feed (expressed milk in the fridge, but apparently she wouldn't drink it, meaning she's tired not hungry). DH went to sleep. I fed DD then handed her back to DH to settle and went to the spare room to sleep.

DS woke at 6am and got sent by DH in to me. DH then asked me to take DD as well as he'd had a bad night with her. So I've had 3 hours sleep, am slightly hungover and looking after two kids whilst DH sleeps the morning away.

AIBU to be pissed off? I'd rather he said he didn't want to do it, I could have chosen not to go, or to go and come home early, or not drink. I made choices based on what he had (self-suggested) agreed to but he's not held up his end. I don't go out a lot. Neither does he (a couple of times a month) and I always let him have the lie in when he's been out.

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mynameisMrG · 30/11/2019 10:17

I’d be furious. I would be hoovering increasingly loudly against the bedroom door.

areyouafraidofthedark · 30/11/2019 10:20

Go give him the baby now and go back to your own bed.

BlackSwanGreen · 30/11/2019 10:20

YANBU.

I'd wait till he wakes up and then go back to sleep yourself for a few hours. Don't have a big row about it. He was trying to do a nice thing for you and found it harder than he expected!

Iloveacurry · 30/11/2019 10:23

Next time he goes out, dump the kids onto him very early as you had (or will have even if you didn’t!) a bad night!

Vulpine · 30/11/2019 10:24

What a cock

MrsSpenserGregson · 30/11/2019 10:31

He goes out twice a month and you go out twice in 10 months? (yes ok admittedly you've had a baby so your socialising is going to be curtailed somewhat, but that's a huge discrepancy between the two of you).

Take both children into the bedroom, hand them to your DH, shut the door, go back to bed. Put something heavy against it from the inside so nobody can come and get you.

squaresandsquares · 30/11/2019 10:40

My ex was like this. Hence why he is now an ex.
I feel for you.

ohwheniknow · 30/11/2019 10:46

That is really shit of him.

MsVestibule · 30/11/2019 10:52

You have to talk to him about this. I couldn't not! Presumably you've had the odd bad night on one of his nights out and yet you've still let him have his lie-in? What makes him think things should be different because he's had a bad night?

Marmite27 · 30/11/2019 10:56

I’d be furious. Take the children in to him, every time they’re sent to you send them back.

In those circumstances I’d still be drunk and not fit to be in charge of the children.

Mattelio · 30/11/2019 10:58

Yes hes a shit. You've gone out twice since you got pregnant and he goes out every 2 weeks? Sorry but that's horribly unbalanced!

lljkk · 30/11/2019 11:00

How many hours sleep did your DH get last night?

At least you had a party + 3 hrs sleep.
Sounds like he just had a bad night.

questioningwhy · 30/11/2019 11:07

so one rule for him and one rule for you you're better off waking him up make him look after his childen stop letting him get away with it because he'll keep doing it use the mood your in on him

EmJay19 · 30/11/2019 11:22

He’s a prick

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