Keeping DD home on Monday?

[Alte]

DD was in a fight at school today, no injuries but she was really distressed as she wasn't expecting it. She came home crying, obviously explained what happened. The other girls involved went looking for her to start a fight, these were people she considered friends literally last week. So far the school haven't done anything as this happened at lunchtime and HOY was teaching in the afternoon. The attack wasn't provoked by anything she said or did, I literally can't see why it happened - I saw the messages and it was another girl who said stuff to DD. These girls have lessons with her and I don't feel that she's safe being around them, especially because we have a stressful weekend already (can't avoid). AIBU to want to keep her off school on Monday?

Forgot to mention, she suffers badly from anxiety, to the point where she was sick after what happened today.

I think it's perfectly reasonable to keep her off until the school have told you what plans they have in place to keep her safe.

Poor mite, how old is she? I think the school need to be looking into this and taking action and you can keep her home until you are both reassured that she’ll be safe. How awful for her.

How different we all are... not saying one is wrong or right, but I would say that I would want my child to learn not to run away, but to stand up and defend myself and to help give them the tools in order to do this.

Keeping them off school is just avoidant

I am another one who does not understand the logic of keeping her off school.

If she suffers with anxiety, you have to make sure that you do not feed that. You have a weekend to build her up to return on Monday and be be in her rightful place. What will happen on Tuesday for her?

How awful that this happened and I hope she’s ok! I’m another that doesn’t think keeping her off is a good idea. It teaches her to avoid confronting difficult situations and in all honesty, shows others that she’s weak. Potentially making her more of a target.

I would send her in, but I would be speaking to the school first thing and looking for assurances that she will be kept safe.

Thanks for responding. I think I'll probably keep her home on Monday to give the situation time to calm down then send her back on Tuesday.

In my school the students would be pulled out and dealt with first thing on Monday morning however it could not be investigated properly until your DD is in school so keeping her off may delay this which is something to consider.

Also - you say that nothing happened to provoke but then you say that you have seen the messages so something must have been going on? You also mention a fight - did she hit them too etc as if she did she would definitely need to be in school for the investigation.

I can see why you would keep her off however it might actually have an impact on them looking into it. The best thing to do is email the HOY saying that she is worried about being in school and get her to go to the HOY first thing in the morning.