Who is BU?

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The morning routine in out house is I get up earlier than everyone else and get myself ready so I can sort the kids, 4 & 8, for school (preparing lunch, help 4 yo get dressed etc). DH only job in a morning is to take the dog out for a short walk.

Next week I have to go into work 2 hours early for 4 of the 5 days so I have asked DH if he could sort kids, no problem he says but I will have to walk dog because he can't possibly do both.

I have said that I'm doing 10hr days and surely it's not that much of a problem to take kids with him whilst he walks the dog, he only takes her round the block in the morning and does a longer walk on an evening whilst I put kids to bed.

I never get any help with the kids in the morning and it grates on me a bit but I just get on with it.

So am I BU to not want to take the dog out extremely early in the morning, or is he BU to not be able to do it for 4 mornings?

DH is BU

YANBU, what a lazy twat Time to share the responsibility of sorting the kids. Why is this solely your job?

He is BU.

Children might not want to go out of its really early and cold?and take ages getting coats and shoes on?
I used to walk my dogs at 4am when on a 6am start,it was lovely at that time of the day and it gives you chance to set yourself up for the day,a bit of me time.I'd take the dog out op if I had a choice😀🌺🐕

Stop being a martyr and get lazy cunt up to share the morning load.

Why is he acting like he is doing you a favour? There his kids and he should be doing more anyway in the morning

He's a lazy arse.

I can see that it would be a pain to have to take the DCs with him when walking the dog. Can he get up and walk dog before you leave ?

Tell him to find a ddoggy day care for ddog and he can drop it there...

He does do other stuff around the house, it's mainly the childcare thats left to me.

I do get it's not ideal to walk the dog with the kids either, I've done it when he's worked away.

Glad most people think INBU, I'm quite stressed and knacked atm so didn't know if I was BU and just couldn't see it.

Make him do the kids in the morning more often. Then it won't be such a big deal to him will it.

DH is being a dick. He can do more to help get kids ready every week from now on.

It's a pain to drag kids around on a dog walk at stupid oclock. If it's a short walk why can't you do it, get up 20 mins earlier? Or dh get up 30 mins before you leave and take dog then?

If 2 of you are home why can't 2 adults sort it out so 2 small dcs don't have to be dragged out before school that would probably be ideal.

In your update, you said that you’ve sorted the kids AND walked the dog in the morning when he’s been away for work, so no, you’re not being unreasonable. He is. He can do both.

I do get it's not ideal to walk the dog with the kids either, I've done it when he's worked away.

Tiny bit of a drip feed there, OP! Based on that, YADNBU. If you can do it for one offs when his work gets in the way, so can he!

Can people not post here without using filthy language ?
Why have words such as c* become acceptable in a public forum ?
Mumsnet ? What an example for mums to set their kids ...

@Trenet who says we're using this language in front of our children? Around adults and online I swear like a sailor who has had a few too many drinks, in front of my baby and at work I don't even say "oh my god". Either contribute to the thread or fuck off with your judgy language 😘

Op you are definitely not BU, he needs to pull his weight for four days so you can work, starting two hours earlier is hard for anybody and he needs to recognise that and pull his weight a bit. Doesn't matter whether you walk the dog with the kids or not, you need him to do it this week so he needs to pull his finger out. If he really doesn't want to take the kids maybe he has to organise himself so he takes the dog out before you leave.

I'd do it and then declare that you really enjoy the morning walk and from now I. You'll be walking dog while your husband dresses the kids!

thatguiltyfeeling :Charming ! I was actually going to contribute to this thread but I was making an observation about the way people like you are behaving in a public space. Most people let a swear word slip out in conversation at some point , but you have time to choose your words when writing something and moderate accordingly. Ive every right to have an opinion

Netmums is thataway. ➡️➡️➡️

Yup, totally convinced we are never ever getting a dog!!!!

Our local parks have child play areas, dogs can be walked round whilst dc play for 10 minutes, surely?

I think that if he's unused to sorting out the DC in the morning then doing the dog as well is an additional stress, so I can understand why he's asking you to do this bit.
Whether you do or don't is something for you to discuss. Maybe you do it monday and he copes for the rest of the week?

However, I think your morning routine generally is unfair and you should split the load more evenly between you both once this week is over