Middle son moved in with his dad

[JoP65]

Hi there,
I may be being a bit sensitive but I split from my husband over 10 years ago and raised my 3 kids on my own without any help from ex.
Did the best I could and didn’t get into the spiteful game that my ex started with telling viscous lies about why we split.
My middle son has obviously believed those lies and about a month ago moved out of mine to live with his dad. I didn’t get a Mother’s Day card nor birthday card and he doesn’t come round to visit. I miss him dearly and have tried talking to him but to no avail. I’ve emptied his room (it was a little like a shrine to him) and he says I’m now being unreasonable because I want to take it to him.
I also won’t be seeing him this Christmas. It seems he’s cut me out of he’s life entirely. Don’t know what to do.

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I think that boys once they get older really want to cut the strings to their DM. Not necessarily because their DM is bad/domineering/pushy but because part of becoming a man is being independent.
Also possibly they don't want to be their DM's support in life. It is a stage in life where they are looking for a new partner.

My DS doesn't want my advice or input to his life. He wants to make his own mistakes. I notice this too wiht my nephew, he won't discuss his job or private life with his DPs.
They want to make their own decisions and mistakes. But are all still on good terms.
I think you are taking this too personally and I doubt DS2 is daft enough to believe what his DF says. At 23 he perhaps wants to mooch about at his DF's rather than be looked after at home. Just remain a friend and don't mother him, or diss his DF. He will work things out for himself.

At 23 it's not unreasonable to clear his room if he has moved out.
Especially if he has gone non contact.

Let him know his stuff is boxed up and kept safe He can come and collect it if he wants it.

Sounds like he wants you to keep his room despite refusing to visit you and finding a 'better' place to live.

Very childish attitude for a 23 year old.

At 23 I wouldn’t be bothered either way. He is not a kid. He is an adult and if he makes the wrong decision then that’s on him.

Hi fit4more,
Thank you for your reply, I may just do that. I didn’t want to get into the ‘Titfortat’ scenario, but I think it may help.
I’m not sad that he’s moved out per se (it had to happen at some point) just that there’s no contact anymore and I miss him 💔

Your son will wise up OP.
May take him time but he will come round.
Growing up my mother told lies about my dad after they divorced.
She tried to turn the whole family against him.
My dad never once spoke I'll about my mother.
Once I grew up I realized alot
Needless to say I am alot closer to my dad than my mother.
Stay strong!