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Original poster

To send 6yo to school late?

37 replies

DaffodilsAndDandelions · 29/11/2019 07:22

He appears well at the moment but the baby is absolutely full of cold so could be passing it on. 6yo was about falling asleep at the dinner table last night, he goes to bed between 6:30 and 7:00 and is still fast asleep, I also had to wake him yesterday.
Should I let him sleep as long as he needs then send him to a school for 10 ish?

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Singlebutmarried · 29/11/2019 07:25

If you’re going to send him in either do it at start time or for the afternoon start time after lunch.

It’ll be less disruptive for the rest of the class.

PotteringAlong · 29/11/2019 07:25

No. Wake him up and get him into school on tome.

adaline · 29/11/2019 07:26

Meh, it's Friday.

At 6yo I would just keep him off if you can do that and send him in on Monday🤷🏻‍♀️

stucknoue · 29/11/2019 07:26

No, either send him as normal or keep him off if he seems unwell. Schools can't have kids turning up late because their mums let them sleep in, it's really disruptive

Chocolatecake12 · 29/11/2019 07:27

As it’s Friday I’d get him up and to school on time. Then let him rest at the weekend

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DaffodilsAndDandelions · 29/11/2019 07:28

@PotteringAlong can you give your reasons please?

@Singlebutmarried Thankyou I will bear that in mind.

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Di11y · 29/11/2019 07:28

if he's showing no signs send him in on time and have a very lazy weekend. my dd would be upset and disrupted if sent in late.

positivepixie · 29/11/2019 07:28

Being tired the night before is not a reason to be late for school. I'd wake him at 8 and get him in, unless he is ill. A casual approach to punctuality won't do him any favours.

MyNewBearTotoro · 29/11/2019 07:29

I agree with posters saying either send him in or keep him off but don’t send him in late. It’ll be disruptive to the class and teacher to have him turn up at 10am half way through a lesson. Either he’s well enough to get up and go in (and it’s Friday so only one day to get through before the weekend) or he’s poorly and you shouldn’t send him to school to infect everybody else.

cultkid · 29/11/2019 07:30

Keep him home to rest so you can enjoy the weekend together

PotteringAlong · 29/11/2019 07:31

Because a) he’s not ill, the baby is.
B) it gives the impression that school is optional to flit in and out of. It isn’t.
C) it’s really disruptive for the rest of the class to have people popping in and out
D) if he’s tired it’s friday and he can rest all weekend.

You cannot keep people off school because they’re tired or they may be ill.

Funnyfive · 29/11/2019 07:33

Get him up and send him in, you’ve just said he seems well and if he is going down with something one day at school isn’t going to hurt him - he can then have all weekend to rest.

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DaffodilsAndDandelions · 29/11/2019 07:34

I know it’s not the right attitude to have. My reasoning is that he gets very argumentative and stroppy when tired. Will argue black is white, that he hates biscuits and grass is purple just to be awkward. Possible SEN though reluctant to start using that as an excuse for naughtiness. If he Won’t cooperate when tired is it better he sleeps then Jona for the afternoon or just let his teachers deal with another tired stroppy kid

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Emeraldshamrock · 29/11/2019 07:35

He may not get it at all
I'd send him in on time. Friday is usually a fun day in school.
You never know when you may genuinely need to take him off for a weeks illness.
Going in at 10am is really embarrassing for a DC and disruptive to the class.

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DaffodilsAndDandelions · 29/11/2019 07:36

Ok so the consensus seems to be wake him after a little low in and get him to school on time. Will do.

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AaandBreathe · 29/11/2019 07:36

He's 6, clearly exhausted for whatever reason. Keep him off. Do some times tables and reading with him later if you feel guilty.

Emeraldshamrock · 29/11/2019 07:37

Either keep him off or send him on time. Smile

BarrenFieldofFucks · 29/11/2019 07:39

I'd let him sleep and send him in at lunchtime.

maddiemookins16mum · 29/11/2019 07:40

I wouldn’t get into a habit of thinking ‘I’ll send him in late, he’s a wee bit tired, he ‘might’ be poorly’. Don’t be that parent who is doing this.
You’ve another 10 years or more of this.

Bluewall · 29/11/2019 07:41

I have had to wake my kids recently I pretty sure it's the dark morning (I feel it myself) Definitely wake him and send him to school. My kids would hate to miss a Friday anyway there is usually 'golden time' or whatever you are supposed to call it now.

AlwaysCheddar · 29/11/2019 07:50

Send him to school! He’s fine! Ffs!!

ShinyGiratina · 29/11/2019 07:58

If they are more than 10 mins late, they're officially absent anyway (as I discovered after losing 100% attendence over signing him in after an x-ray).

I have a DC that struggles with school (dyslexia, dyspraxia, sensory issues) and he just gets drained down by the latter weeks of a long school term. I have, very occasionally let him have a duvet-day midweek when he's been run-down with something minor like a cold, to pep him up for the rest of the week and help his mood for the coming weeks. He needs more quiet downtime than most as he uses up so much mental energy on normal function. He's partway through junior school and has always had 99-100% attendence. It's not an issue with my other DC who has more energy and more distinction between being well and poorly.

BrokenWing · 29/11/2019 08:00

You are doing him and yourself no favours if you start the habit of it is ok to pull a sickie just because you are a bit tired. Get him in, on time, today and have a quite weekend to recharge the batteries.

RedskyToNight · 29/11/2019 08:01

My DC are older now, but my memories of their younger primary days was that by the time you got to this stage in the autumn term, pretty much every child was tired. It's a long term and there is a lot going on.

StrongTea · 29/11/2019 08:03

Sounds like he is coming down with something, I’d let him sleep on. Hopefully he’ll pick up over the weekend and back to normal for Monday