Adopting a dog

[peachymum29]

Our family lost someone who was fairly young. She left behind a dog.
Me and DH offered the dog a home.
I was never close to the person who died.
Some family and friends had a memorial which I said I would attend, unfortunately we had a disaster at home and couldn't make it.
Now I'm receiving phone calls etc saying everyone was upset as the dog was an important part of the persons life and I should of made the effort to be there with the dog.
It's always been obvious that I've never ever been close to the person who passed. In fact taking the dog along never crossed my mind. AIBU being hurt that people are acting this way. I genuinely couldn't make it

Unless someone had specifically requested you take the dog I can't imagine you would have anyway.

I can understand why people are upset you weren't there though - I guess they could've asked about the dog, seen pictures etc.

You say you genuinely couldn't go quickly followed by "we weren't close anyway". Which is the real reason?

We wasn't close at all but I was going along I was at the service etc.
I genuinely couldn't go long story house adjustments going really wrong 😪

It was a very sudden death and I knew there would be stress about the dog. I offered to look after it and we all fell in love with it.
It's always been known that me and her wasn't close it's been since we were young.
Not that I would ever wish a sudden death on anyone.

The important thing is that you took in her dog. Reiterate that to the people who are reproaching you.

I didn't ask for the dog when I was told she had passed suddenly and they had no idea what to do with the dog I offered to have it till they found a home.
No one offered a home but we had already fell in love with it.
I'm lying awake thinking maybe it wasn't such a good idea now. Problem is we adore the dog.
I'm just worried that from now on it'll be treated as her dog by everyone and I'll be expected to visit people with it as the dog was her greatest love 😔

@peachymum29 has anyone complaining actually even visited the dog?

No one has visited the dog.
I was at her service burial etc and a fair few people said they were so happy we had decided to keep the dog.
It was a memorial balloon thing I couldn't make it to

Sod them then! Why should you make all the effort?

It's obviously hard to lose someone young but they're pretending to care about the dog because they feel it's the 'right' thing to do I think.
If they felt the dog held any connection to her they'd ask to see it.

That's true. I mentioned at the burial that perhaps I should of took the dog along and got shot down by everyone saying no way.
So I wouldn't of took her to the balloon thing anyway 😪

Just tell them she's scared of balloons

YANBU I wouldn’t have even thought about taking the dog to a memorial. In the greatest of respects the dog has no idea what’s going on and they’re putting unreasonable pressure on you (and the dog really).

Hope things ease up soon op, sorry for your family’s loss

Thank you I don't feel so awful now x