To give up on my mother?

[Goodsplatter]

She call her once a week, on a Thursday afternoon. She never seems like she wants to talk to me. But I call anyway because I’ve been conditioned to think that I’m the bad guy in every situation.

Last week I called. No answer. No call back.

Today I called. No answer, no call back.

AIBU to think fuck it. Clearly I’m not wanted so I’ll take the hint and piss off?

Family have confirmed she’s ok. So clearly just choosing to ignore me.

2 weeks gone by trying to contact her ... no response yet she’s been interacting with family daily. It’s obvious isn’t it?

She has her family, I’m just the kid from previous relationship. I’m fine with that, just wish she’d be honest about it

Anyone? Feeling lonely. I also received a text today from a co-worker slagging me off for being a shit friend. Not once has anyone enquired as to how I’m doing

Not everyone’s mums care as much as they should. I went NC with my mum a couple of years ago. I’m sorry that your mum is treating you this way. If I were you, I would hold off now. She can contact you if she wants to. You have made the effort.

Ignore the text from the so called friend. You need to concentrate on your own happiness and spending time with people who leave you feeling good about yourself. I’m sorry that your going through this

Sorry OP I’m posting here to help bump your message. Sounds tough. IMHO one has a right to your time when they don’t deserve it, family included. Good luck xx

I think you’re right OP, just stop bothering. It must be doing you serious harm.

There’s a good thread on here- called ‘but we took you to stately homes’- lots of people who are very knowledgeable and supportive about this subject. DH has dealt with similar to you, and we are now NC.

Was she uncaring when you were a child?

I think it was on here i read someone say they had to mourn for the parent they didn't have. Maybe you've got to become more detached from her because she's never going to respond the way you need.