not to invited to join family chat group

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I can't decide if Im being ridiculous, over sensitive etc.

Been with DP for 12 years, 3 children, good relationship with all family members and in laws etc.

One of his close family who I see and speak to every couple of weeks has set up a private 'group chat' on fb and invited basically all the immediate family apart from me. My DP has also joined this group chat. I feel quite hurt by it but Dp can't see my point of view at all and doesn't understand why I feel excluded.

I asked DP what the purpose of the group is and he said its just to chat about 'stuff'....! I've been in the family for 12 years and we have 3 children together but for some reason I haven't been included.

Am I being ridiculous for feeling hurt and excluded?

Our partners are in the family group chat, we even have a sub chat with just the girls and that includes in laws also!

My dp has a chat group with his siblings and one with his kids and I'm not in either. I'd only be offended in your situation if the other spouse in laws were included and you weren't.

If the other DILs/SonILs are in the group then YANBU, but if it's just immediate family then YABU.

DB is admin for our family chat and has included his DP but not my DH. I was going to ask him to add him but DH begged me not to

I didn´t even want to be part of my own family group chat.

If other in-laws are in it then YANBU. If it's only their immediate family i.e. parents and siblings then YABU. We have a family group chat and no partners/wives/husbands are on it. I wouldn't want anyone else on it and I genuinely like them all and we all get on. To be fair I doubt any of the in-laws would want to be on it either, mostly run of the mill updates from our retired parents about their latest day out!

My DH isn't in ours, he's more than happy about it.

We talk a lot of (hilarious) shit

I'm not in my OH's - this doesn't bother me as he can make family plans for meeting up, I find it all too intrusive and we've been together 20 years.

Similarly, he leaves any comms with my family up to me which is fine.

We have many family group chats

Just parents and siblings
Parents siblings and partners
Parents, one child and their partner
Parents, other child and their partner
Both children and partners with no parents

Depends on what we want to discuss.

No idea what my partner has btw. Think he just has one with his siblings. I’m not in any for his family anyway.

My dad refused to be in one with my mum & me!

i'd hate anything like this tbh so i don't have sm accounts except for mn

I've been with my husband almost 25 years, they have a family group chat and it never entered my head to be upset about it.

My hubby's family have a group chat and I'm not in it, not too bothered. He's not in any I've had with my family

We have a sibling chat with all 4 of us in - if you’re not our sibling you’re not in and that’s that! We’re all in our forties 😂

I'm not in my in-laws group chat. The rest of the family is including wives it's just me. I was offended too now I just roll my eyes and am glad that I don't have to be part of it! Took a while though, so I don't think yabu!