To be concerned?

[Donkeykong2019]

Dd 5 in reception, most likely not NT. Yesterday there was a parent event to go look at work in their classrooms, I didn't go because I hadn't realised it was on.

Anyway, one of dds biggest flags is that she is very very over affectionate indiscriminantly to complete strangers and familiar adults. The school are aware this is a long standing issue.

During this event yesterday one of the dads came in, my dd recognised the dad from pick ups but no further than that, when he was there apparantly she kept hugging and kissing him and generally all over him.

I'm a bit uncomfortable that no one intervened to stop her. AIBU?

She was in your care OP so they were probably waiting for YOU to intervene

I wasn't there...

OP wasn't there.

OP, YANBU. Staff should have intervened, I would raise it with them.

"I didn't go because I hadn't realised it was on."

YANBU it must've been very awkward for the dad.

Who told you about her behaviour?

The mum of the child because she felt I needed to be aware.

What does your daughter say when you talk to her about this behaviour?

She doesn't get it. She thinks everyone is her friend. We have had scenarios where people have commented on her top and 10 seconds later she is trying to climb all over them for kisses and cuddles.

YANBU, I assume that the dad stopped her... Have the school offered up any suggestions on how to stop this behaviour? Have you had a look online to see whether the NSPCC has any videos to back up what you are telling her?

My DD was exactly like this. She is now a 20yo who couldn't be less affectionate if she tried! She is at Uni, doing very well, works in a job where she has responsibility for vulnerable people, a boyfriend who she got serious with 2 years ago and just a very normal person. She is a charmer though and somehow always get everyone to like her and think she's great!

Keep an eye on her, but her behaviour doesn't mean there is something wrong with her.

My son was the same, he would hug random strangers in supermarkets! He had no idea of strangers or danger. It stopped once he was about 8/9. He's now a surly teen who is the total opposite! I miss the hug days 🥺