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Help with 9yo DS

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Goodnightjude1 · 28/11/2019 15:59

This isn’t really AIBU but I’m worried and I want as many opinions as possible please.

I’ve just been in to see my DS teacher. She said that he’s been having some extra help as his general comprehension isn’t good. He can read perfectly but when he’s asked about what he’s read he draws a blank.
He’s always taken slightly longer to grasp things growing up...he didn’t talk till he was 3 and hated any kind of change, (think beaker to cup, cot to bed, different kinds of food)
He’s much easier now. Has lots of friends, plays football, does karate...normal 9yo stuff really.
This has just worried me so much. Why isn’t what he’s reading staying in his head?
What should I do? Who can help?

The school is great btw, they give him extra help and are very supportive but I feel I need to be doing something too.

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Goodnightjude1 · 28/11/2019 16:17

Probably should have mentioned he had viral meningitis when he was 1 month old.

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ScabbyHorse · 28/11/2019 16:20

Practice with him at home; read to him and get him to read to you then talk about the books. Don't be worried though, it's very common and gets better with time. A website called twinkl has comprehension worksheets you can download.


Goodnightjude1 · 28/11/2019 16:22

Thankyou. I’ll have a look x

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Winterdaysarehere · 28/11/2019 16:24

Ds was a complete seive at 9. School agreed to have him observed...
Nothing found.
Transformed by year 6..


Hunkyd0ry · 28/11/2019 16:28

When you read with him, ask him about the book.
Who are the main characters?
How are the characters feeling? Why?
What does he think will happen?
What happened on that page?
Also, asking what individual words mean.
You could try asking after each paragraph to start with. So he’s not got lots to think about.


Goodnightjude1 · 28/11/2019 16:55

Thanks @Hunkyd0ry

I try a lot of those things you’ve mentioned on a daily basis and he’ll generally just make up a random answer that’s nothing to do with the book or just say “I’ve forgotten”
I’ll persist though.

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User342109097569098 · 28/11/2019 17:09

Don’t panic- could he be dyslexic? I know you say he can read very well but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have some dyslexic tendencies. My mum was convinced I wasn’t dyslexic because I could read so well, I was t diagnosed until my 20s be diagnosed earlier would have made life a lot easier for me.


stucknoue · 28/11/2019 17:09

It's a case of practice practice practice- but also vary the source material because to engage with the material they need to be interested, so non fiction, graphic novels, audio books. I would ask for a formal assessment and mention the viral meningitis because it could be a factor, I'm no dr. On a positive side, kids develop at different paces, my dd got level 3 in her year 6 sats (4+ is the aim) but by a levels got straight a's don't make assumptions


Goodnightjude1 · 28/11/2019 17:10

Thankyou everyone for your replies

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