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Cocomelon9902 · 28/11/2019 14:56

So I'm pretty sure I've made my decision, I'm leaving my OH. Things have just been going downhill since we had our son... Getting worse the past few months. He has been off work ill for the last few months, I know he's getting depressed about his condition and not being able to work at the moment. But I can't take his attitude anymore. Our tenancy isn't up until March, so I guess we have to live civil until then and then go our separate ways. But I've no idea where to start to start again on my own with a toddler! How will I afford a place on my own? I've just put my notice in and got a job with more hours, how can I do that on my own? I'll just be working to pay for childcare, and I don't see the point in that. I can go back to my mums for a while but obviously I'd rather spend these 3 months sorting a place to go myself and getting myself back on my own 2 feet. Help! Please!

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Confusedbeetle · 28/11/2019 15:03

The first thing you need to do is start saving up for a deposit on a new rent. You really need to be in work to get a good credit score. Once you get your new job you can start to work out childcare and other expenses and see if you are entitled to any benefits. It might feel comforting to go back home but may not help you in the long run


CripsSandwiches · 28/11/2019 15:25

I agree with saving for a deposit. How long will DH be out of work? What do you think the custody arrangements will be? Could he not look after DC while you're at work at least some of the time?


Cocomelon9902 · 28/11/2019 15:54

That's my issue, I've got 20 quid left this month, there's just no extra to save for a deposit!

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