Breakdown.

[PiperG91]

My partner left me because I suffer with borderline personality disorder and he was unable to manage my illness ... It's taking me all my strength not to harm myself because I am to blame for my illness and him leaving... .

Am I being unreasonable?

Firstly you are NOT to blame for your illness.

Secondly all relationships end for some reason until you find the one that lasts. For the most part relationships end because the two people are incompatible in some way.

You and your ex are incompatible because he couldn't cope with your illness. This isn't to say that nobody can cope with your illness, or that it's your fault. It isn't. There will be people who you will be compatible with. He just wasn't it.

Losing someone is heartbreaking. When you blame yourself (needlessly) its even worse. Be gentle with yourself. Do you have friends or family you can call on?