Husband called my family The Brady Bunch

[CharlieSon]

Overheard DH on phone to MIL about Christmas Day. His parents were asked to join us for dinner but declined. Heard him say “thanks for leaving me to deal with the bloody Brady Bunch”. His tone suggested it was an insult but I’ve never seen it so don’t know what to make of it. AIBU to feel annoyed?

Let him have his whinge to his parents about your family.
Maybe, in fact, he was complaining more about his parents not going, but indirectly.

Nothing wrong with The Addams Family either. Morticia and Gomez were the perfect married couple, in love and supported each others decisions.

I'm envisaging matching jumpers and charades.

"Thanks for leaving me to deal with the bloody" is an insult no matter what you add on at the end. Are people being purposely obtuse suggesting they can't tell if it was said as an insult or not?

Do you mean your extended family or just your family? If hes slagging his own family off then that's awful

@Wildthyme we watched the Addams family last week and me and dh agreed that Gomez and Morticia were definitely "couple goals"

Nothing wrong with The Addams Family either.
That's what I am for. "DS, play with your food"

Aim!

"So what did you mean when you referred to us as the bloody Brady Bunch?"

is he mixing his metaphors?? Did he mean the Beverley HIllbillies?? There's your insult!

The Brady Bunch were happy so I’d consider that bit to be a parental win!

The ‘leaving me to deal with’ bit sounds massively unpleasant though.

I think he just means he will feel outnumbered and overwhelmed. I don't think he was being rude at all

Ah, the Brady Bunch. Mum of three girls marries a Dad of three boys, the housekeeper does all the work, and all problems are sorted out within a 30 minute episode. Sounds like your DH was paying you a compliment !

Do you mean your extended family or just your family? I'd agree, are your family coming? As in your mother, father etc? Though it doesn't really matter, I'd give him hell!!! By the by we've 4 boys, we're very much cheaper by the dozen

Tell him if it's that terrible for him to "deal" with your family he can spend it with his parents or on his own.
How rude to say that when you were around to overhear!

I know a family who've been described as the Brady bunch. All huge sparkling smiles, always together ( even the bloody teenagers function 'well' with no tantrums and no demands)
They cycle together around the town ffs
In reality the husband is an abusive arsehole, the wife is a nervous wreck and the kids are terrified to breathe out of line

My BIL refers to my family as the Bloody Brady Bunch also but he says it to our faces slagging us. He comes from a messed up family and is not used to his own family having regular meet ups for various occasions and playing "happy families" as he puts it. It is all meant in good nature so I guess it depends on the tone that was used.

Weren't they supposed to be nice?

A certain family member used to call another part of the family 'The Clampetts'

Well the Addams family were an odd to outsiders but lovely family who adored each other and were supportive and even encouraging of anyone's uniqueness, who welcomed whomever a family member chose as their partner so I'd much prefer that comparison than the Brady bunch!

Disclaimer we are an oddish family with a cat named after an adams family member so I may be slightly biased

Could it just be an affectionate term he uses to describe your family? My dh refers to my mum (his mil) as the wicked witch (not to her face though).

There was a series in the 70s of the Brady Bunch, and a more recent film.

It's sort of an insult but really the reason people find families that are "too perfect" annoying is because they make them feel not good enough. So it is saying he doesn't enjoy spending time with your family en masse but is not saying there's objectively anything wrong with you. Unless you're all false cheer which a brady bunch family may or may not be.

@Loveislandaddict of it was affectionate he wouldn’t have said “ the bloody Brady bunch” surely?

Don't worry OP people often comment that coming here for dinner is like going to dinner with the Waltons. I'm not insulted at all, we are a big family and often have assorted others here - it's great! I couldn't care less what people think or say about us, we're all doing responsible jobs and trying to make a difference in all sorts of ways.
[I was however insulted when I heard one particularly stuck up niece refer to my children as her peasant cousins!] Ignore.

i suppose the brady bunch could be seen as unwelcoming to "outsiders". Very set on doing things their way, oblivious to whether their visitors enjoy charades, or singalongs or whatever.

"Bloody brady bunch" is not a compliment, but how insulting it is still comes down to tone - is quite different depending on whether said with resignation or venom.

Surely your husband is allowed an opinion? He doesn't have to like your family.

I don't think it follows that he dislikes them.

I call DWs lot the Waltons. To someone from a small family that bicker like Klingons at each meal her huge, smiley farming family are a lot to deal with (they are just so nice to each other, it's weird).