To think this is a perfectly reasonable way to decide who gets the ticket

[lastqueenofscotland]

I have tickets for a gig this weekend, which is sold out and while they weren’t mega expensive they were enough for me to not want to be buying them for other people.

One of my friends who was due to come and was very excited has got to now go home (Ireland) this weekend at short notice. She hadn’t yet paid me for the ticket as was going to give me money on the night. She doesn’t trust online banking. This leaves me with a ticket and out of pocket.

My DP has a friend who loves the band who previously said he was gutted when they sold out, so DP has asked him if he wants to come and he’s not replied. I’ve a friend who’s never heard of the band but is up for a night out always and I know will transfer me the money for the ticket the moment I ask.

AIBU to say whoever pays me first can have it. DP thinks I am being unreasonable as his friend likes the band and my friend hasn’t heard of them. I think I’m not being unreasonable as I’m the one out of pocket if he just never gets back to me!!

Just call him and get an actual answer?!

Kingdom my DP has called him and left a message - he’s not replied.

Do you want to go with DP's friend?

Agree with Brie.

Tell DH to call and give you an answer by x or you do what you want with them

First to pay, you’ve tried giving his friend first dibs

Surely you’d rather go with your friend than DP’s? Let your friend have it.

Yanbu of course first who produces the cash should get it... and who knows your friend might become a fan after going to the gig. I wouldn’t describe myself as a fan of any band but I go to various types of concerts all the time and enjoy them all. Sounds like she would have fun.

Go with your friend. DPs friend was too slow.

I would give it to whoever I wanted to go with and who I would have the most fun with.

That’d be my friend, not my partners.

I wouldn’t go buying tickets again for your Irish friend either!

Chunkers I’ve known her for years, this has always been the arrangement for anything requiring tickets and she’s always paid on the day in cash, and often bought me several drinks too. The same if anyone else has sorted something for her too.

In many many planned trips this is the first time she’s let me down.

I would assume the Irish friend has had to go home for a funeral Chunkers so that’s a bit harsh.

If the gigs not till the weekend I’d give the fan till tomorrow some stage to get back then give it to your other friend. It’s quite late, he’s prob asleep