Some boy has taken photos of DD from her Instagram and is telling people she's his girlfriend

[BillHadersNewWife]

Should I be concerned? It's a bit of a worry but I can't put my finger on why.

She's 15...we're in Oz and she's left for school now but she told me this morning that a boy messaged her and asked her if she was going out with "Tom" and she said no...she didn't know any Tom.

The boy messaged again and asked her if she was sure because Tom has shared her pics and is claiming he's going out with her.

I told her to block both boys.

She seemed slightly disturbed by it....but quite recently she was the target of a boy in her class who became slightly obsessed with her...he'd "liked" her for over 2 years and one of the other boys in her class told DD that the lad had loads of photos of DD on his phone and some had been taken when she didn't realise.

He had also sent her lots of begging messages. I told the teacher and it's all calmed down now.

I think this other INstagram lad has rattled her. Should I be worried or just ignore?

I think it's pissed me off because this is twice in less than 6 months that she's had unwanted attention from boys. First the boy in her class and now this random one.

It's not fair.

I'm in Australia too, hi.

She needs to make her account private and only have people she actually knows allowed to follow her.

Whatever is published on instagram, the very second it's published, becomes Instagram's property immediately and anyone on the site who can access the pics is able to copy them or distribute them...legally.

Better still, advise her not to post pics of herself online. I know it's easier said than done (I have teenagers too). You'd be surprised how much info a stalker or unhinged person is able to obtain about someone with just a few images though and safety is paramount.

I don't think it's the first time a hormonal 15yo has lied about having a gf to impress his mates.

The difference now is that people can easily access photos of other people.

I'm sure she'll have had sessions at school about internet privacy. Certainly in the UK, children are taught from primary school that photos posted online are public property. Even if your privacy is tight, there is nothing stopping one of your friends from forwarding your photos to anyone.

If he went to your dd's school then you could address the fact that he's lying about being her bf but, as it is, I doubt there's anything you can do. He probably chose a girl from another school so that his friends wouldn't find out that he was lying.

They obviously don't believe him or they wouldn't be messaging her to ask if it's true.

Agreed, she needs to lock down her ig and make sure her stories can't be shared amongst those who can view them. That creepy Tom person now has her pictures so she can't do anything about that but she can take preventative measures from now on.

I would not be surprised if this was connected to the boy who was harassing her recently. This is another way to get her attention, regardless if it's negative.

I would report the pictures and send a private message to the account threatening legal action unless they took the pictures now.

Also sit down and go through your daughter friend/following list. Delete, delete all people she does not know or all connected to that boy.

If this boy continues harassing your daughter through other means then you must report it to the police.

I agree with the comments about speaking to school because they quite often do assemblies or class discussions about use of social media and also consent and it could be highlighted this way and a shot across the bows given.

Has she somehow got people who she doesnt know as friends, perhaps you and she can check out ... though they are always loathe to spend time doing this so good luck.

Does anyone of her friends know who this Tom is?