lift from friend

[mcmen05]

my dd age 15 and 3 friends are going to a disco in a town 20 miles away which they do once a month.
We usually car share and take turns doing lift but one of the parents has said they will do both this time to and from but they do not have enough room in their car as they take younger child also and 2 of the teens share a seat belt. I really do not like this and have told my dd I will bring her and she can meet friends there or I will do both runs and have enough space for everyone but she said we can't go changing it now, it's all arranged. This is my first time off the lift in a long time.

The last time one of the parents dropped my dd off they threw there rubbish from takeaway on our drive really ignorant.

I am really uncomfortable about my dd not having a seat belt to herself and don't want to fall out with her friends parents over it.
Any suggestions.

I am really uncomfortable about my dd not having a seat belt to herself and don't want to fall out with her friends parents over it

You're more worried about falling out with another parent than your DD's safety? Sharing a seat belt is unsafe and illegal.

Tell your DD that you are taking her. And picking her up. End of. You're in charge here.

They would be driving illegally so it would be a firm no from me. You are being more than reasonable in saying you will take your daughter, but safety always come first.

Just say you will taking and picking up but thanks for asking type thing.

They sound pretty hideous people anyway, I mean who throws their rubbish anywhere let alone someone they know.

If you have a crash sharing a seat belt you are both dead

You have to even ask?

This “offer” is no help to you, they don’t have space in the car for all the children

If they can get someone to watch the little one ..

But given their McLitter on your drive the last time... they clearly are the type to not give a shit about anyone or anything

I would not let my DD share a seatbelt. If I had space for everyone I would do both lifts and whoever wanted to come with me could. I’d have to say something. And about the litter - who does that?!

In the nicest way op,grow a backbone and tell your dd she either goes with you or she stays home.
Be polite but firm with the other parents.
It's your job to protect your daughter,please do so.

I have told my dd it wasn't going to happen massive tantrum. Her friend away to tell her parents. I'm afraid they will lie and say the little one won't be in car.