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Lighteninginabottle27 · 26/11/2019 09:22

Or met his Mum. I have met some siblings and partners and it was a good night. To give context, we've been together a year. He lives less than 10 minutes from my house and hes at mine all the time, we almost live together. He says he is embarrased about his house because he started gutting it to do up and then hasn't started the renovations. Has been there years and years. I can't understand why if he has stuff to do, we can't do it together? We are both renovating properties so mine is no better in my opinion. I've had nights with no heating and a weekend with no toilets during my works but he never offered the use of his house. I've also never met his Mum who lives 10 minutes away. She does work alot but he goes to see her on his way home. He said she's an odd character and she's always busy. I fully respect she might not want to meet me but he could at least just be honest. He chats to her on the phone at mine and she's bought odd bit of snacks for us to take away so, she fully knows we are an item. I don't have an worries that he's cheating or anything like that. I just find it odd; like I'm kept at arms length. He's met most of my family. They all get on great. I can't pull out exactly what it is that gets me but it doesn't sit right. Any views appreciated or am I being unreasonable?

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Notsurehowtofixit · 26/11/2019 09:23

GO OVER THERE. Find out.


Unicornhamster · 26/11/2019 09:27

Agree with the house it could just be he’s embarrassed but if you have been together a year then I wouldn’t see a problem with just showing up. Do you know his address?
Also is there a chance he’s still living with his mum? Maybe that’s why he’s not invited you over..


Lighteninginabottle27 · 26/11/2019 10:45

I've been via his mum's house but stayed in the car, he went in to get something and she was at work.
I've dropped him at his house so i know he has one and hes had some work done outside by a family friend too so defo an actual house and I know one of his neighbours.
I don't feel I can just turn up because he's said he's embarrassed. He's absolutely lovely it's just odd. I keep mentioning it so he knows I think it's an issue, both aspects.

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