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AIBU to not want constant contact with work when off sick?

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Newschapter · 25/11/2019 09:05

I guess I already feel bad for being off sick as we have a small team and have to cover for one another when off.

But I took sick last week and came home to bed..the following day the colleague who was covering for me messaged me to see how I was (he asked if I was taking another day or when would I be back)

Since then, he has messaged every day with stupid questions about work. Asking me about stuff he should already know.

And later in the week a second colleague messaged to ask if I was coming back that day. I felt put under pressure and it added to my already annoyed state.

I have been issued a doctor's note for another week, how can I get it across to colleague that I want no contact with work this week?

I genuinely feel that I didn't get proper rest last week as I've been made to think about work every day.

I guess it's not the company who has been in touch, but colleagues.

I don't make a habit of being off but I have had a bout off ill-health recently and kept going in and I think it has caught up with me.

Is it just expected these days that we put a workplace before our own wellbeing?

And AIBU to want to be left alone to recover in peace?

OP posts:
2beautifulbabs · 25/11/2019 15:45

I'm sorry your being hounded op by your work that's not on and I feel for you.

My DH gets hounded on days off evenings etc by his staff and it drives me crazy it seems that since majority of people now have mobile phones it's somehow become acceptable for management and staff to contact its employees no matter what.

My dad was saying a while back how he felt sorry for our generation and younger ones as there seems to be no switching off from work or clear cut lines to that's your hours and that's that it's expected to be on call no matter what the time 🤬

It's bloody frustrating and I just wish some bloody companies would stop this and go back to works between 9-5 and after that your time is your time if your sick and it's genuine not to be made to feel or bullied into coming back in to work when it suits them not when your feeling better and most importantly time off is your time off to be left alone and forget about work sorry my rant is over and I am dreading getting back into work myself posts like this just make me realise how shit it can be

I really hope you get well soon OP Thanks

BeanBag7 · 25/11/2019 16:38

If someone insists that they are not to be contacted, people will assume the sick leave is for mental health reasons.
a) that's nonsense. I would assume someone is in bed with flu, being sick all day or suffering from migraines (for example) would ask not to be contacted because it causes stress, makes recovery take longer and also they may not be able to do anything if they're really feeling I'll.
b) why is an absence for "mental health reasons" a problem?

OP I would just not respond or say something like "sorry I'm really unwell so maybe you could ask X to help you with that or I'll take a look at it when I get back" and then stop responding. If its whatsapp you can mute the conversation so it wont buzz at you and he wont see the messages as read.

LolaSmiles · 25/11/2019 17:03

Ifsomeone insists that they are not to be contacted, people will assume the sick leave is for mental health reasons
That sounds like a fairly unpleasant and toxic environment to work in. How awful if someone is ill for them to be at home recovering knowing their colleagues are shit stirring and speculating about their mental health.

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