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Husband gambled all our monet away

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Funkymonkey123 · 25/11/2019 08:49

Posting for traffic and in need of help or advice from anyone with similar experience.

My husband has recently confessed a gambling problem to me and has put us under severe financial strain. I've still not decided to forgive him or not and I'm considering divorce though he seems genuinely remorseful.

He has given me gull control over all family finances but we are really in a hole and for the next 2 months we are going to struggle to make the mortgage repayments or essentially live on soup and bread.

I just feel so lost at the moment.

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glitterfarts · 25/11/2019 08:54

Kick him out. It's almost impossible to break a gambling addiction. Has he done anything to address it? Ie counselling, self banning all gambling sites etc.
Or just made it your problem by giving you control of finances?
He may have taken out loans in your name. Run a credit check on each of you.

If you stay, you and your children will have a life of misery and stress. He'll do it again.
Cut your losses and go now


LIZS · 25/11/2019 08:59

What help has he sought? He can't just land you with the problem and carry on.

Has he borrowed money too? What can you sell? Were you otherwise living within your means?


Bluerussian · 25/11/2019 08:59

When I saw the thread title I thought you were talking about lily ponds or the like :-. Thought, "Oh an art collector".

I'm so sorry about this. I really hope you can get through the next two months by being frugal, it's such a worry.

Thank goodness he has handed all the financial stuff over to you, make sure you squirrel some funds away for yourself just in case he doesn't break the habit in which case it would be time to think about divorce.

There are people who manage to give up gambling, it's not easy though. Only you can tell if it is all working. He may need some professional help.

All the very best.


WaterSheep · 25/11/2019 08:59

glitterfarts mirrors my own thoughts on this. Particularly with this line

He'll do it again. Cut your losses and go now

I'm sorry to say that divorce would be the only outcome for me. Gamblers rarely change, and I couldn't live my life wondering when it would happen again.

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