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not to donate
DDiva · 24/11/2019 13:56
Hi
I'm lucky that we get on very well with the other parents of children in dd's class. Most of us are quite involved in pick ups/ drop offs, pta and the mums will often meet up for dinner/drinks.
Recently one of the dads with a dd in my dd class has done a charity boxing match. Despite it being a great charity and being friends with the mum and dad I couldn't bring myself to donate. I really dislike boxing.
Boxers are athletes, it takes skill and tactics and a great level of fitness. But I cannot understand or endorse a sport which its main aim is to hurt the opponent enough to stop them being able to stand.
This dislike of boxing has also been compounded with the glitz and glamour at these events. Having seen pictures of all the mums done up in evening dresses to watch men hit each other, it feels very them and us.
I am really surprised so many of the Mums thought this was a great night out.
So am I unreasonable to not donate to the charity because I dont agree with boxing.
Also interested in your view of boxing as a sport.
Am I being unreasonable?
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DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/11/2019 14:06
I hate boxing (to be fair I don't like any sport 
) so I wouldn't sponsor that event either.
However your donation is to the charity not to boxing. If you are otherwise happy to support the charity then donate directly. If anyone asks, you can explain.
Puzzledandpissedoff · 24/11/2019 14:13
I'm with PPs; you've a complete right to donate (or not) to whatever you wish - no explanation needed, though you could say you already have "chosen charities" if you want to soften it
I'm absolutely with you on the reason, though; normally I take the view "each to their own if it's legal", but this glorification of violence is a very rare exception
DDiva · 24/11/2019 14:19
Yes @floralnomsd think I would which is what promoted me to post. I think I will make a donation directly instead.
I also see my dislike of boxing isnt that unusual. From the responses of the other parents/mums I seemed to be the only one with any issue.
Of course we can all donate or not to whatever charity we want.
piratehooker · 24/11/2019 14:40
YANBU at all. As others have said, charity giving is a personal thing.
I don't mind being asked at work etc. when people are fundraising for various things... within reason, if you don't ask, you don't get. But I rarely donate, to be honest. My issue is usually with the charities themselves (i.e. ones I wouldn't choose to support/prioritise myself) and not what they are doing to raise money, but I think it boils down to the same thing.
In my case, I can then just go and donate something similar to one of the charities I support, if I so wish. And in your case as you've said, you can negate the boxing issue by donating directly to their chosen charity as you wish.
Havaina · 24/11/2019 14:44
YABU because it's a non-event, no one has an issue with you not donating.
You do sound a bit judgemental about the others. I'm not into boxing but if a sport can produce a man like Muhammad Ali, then it can't be all bad. (Although of course it did impact his health).
Halo1234 · 24/11/2019 15:06
Yanbu not to donate. I understand why you dont like boxing. However it doesnt bother me because its adults who sign up for it knowing what's involved. They chose to do it (I never would and dont understand why they do but each to their own). Horse racing and dog racing bother me much more. The horses dont have a choice and the jumps are so high and they hit them to make them run faster. Dont understand how watching that is fun or sport.
Passthecherrycoke · 24/11/2019 15:12
I’m really on the fence with boxing. There is a fair amount of boxing in my background, and I know it was sport and an impressive one at that. But you’re right, they’re just beating the crap out of each other
I’m also uncomfortable with the set up around boxing. It’s often young black (or other minority) men and women getting the crap beaten out of them, risking future brain injury or current serious injury, and in the background there are always middle aged white men getting rich off their risks and health.
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