To be pissed off?

[Inferiorbeing]

So me and DP have been going through a rough patch. Today was a really good day and we had been really happy together, we were planning a date night tonight. Well DPs friend phoned earlier and asked if he could come over and DP said yes. I was upset but i know this friend has been going through a lot recently so left it.

Well since DPs friend has been over they have shut themselves in a different room and I've just gone in to DPs friend showing him a porn video. I'm now incredibly pissed off.. AIBU or should i just leave it?

Well I’d be pissed off that the date night has been blown out in favour of a friend. IMO if you’ve been having a rough time and today has been a good day then it shouldn’t have been side tracked for a friend, because just as he has had a tough time lately, you and your partner have too and family comes first and you clearly need this time together.

I wouldn’t be so bothered about the porn video, if they are being noisy and drinking loads then I’d be getting pissed off with it and would hint the friend has out stayed his welcome. Would leave a bitter taste in my mouth after he’s gone though so probably best thing is so take yourself off to bed and watch a film and ask your partner not to disturb you tonight to avoid any kind of conflict

YANBU

YANBU.

Thanks @Heartburn888! I just feel extremely annoyed about it all. To be fair I did end up saying to DP how I felt before friend came over and he was very apologetic and said he hadn't thought it would be a problem but he would make it up to me this week. It's just the fact I caught them watching videos like that and now they are in the living room laughing extremely loudly at a comedy video. I'm just really not in the mood and feel let down.

I would be furious. He had plans with you.

Does he often do stuff like this?

If this common? If so, it suggests you aren’t much of a priority unfortunately. It suggests you aren’t as important as his friends. When he said his friend was coming round, did you say ‘but what about our plans tonight?’. If yes, what did he say? If not, why did you not speak up?

I have never ever known DH to watch open never mind with a friend over for the evening so I be would be extremely pissed off with that

porn not open

I’d be livid about the friend coming over and would have probably kicked off about it before he came over to be honest. I’d also be upset that they buggered off to another room. The porn thing itself wouldn’t bother me (although I’d find it creepy!) but it’s all part of the bigger picture

I'd be pissed off about the porn video more so than the date night to be honest.

It's weird.

Why do you call yourself inferiorbeing? You are not you know. I would be inclined to take myself upstairs with a large mug of hot chocolate and have a nice long bath. Speak to your DP after about not watching porn because it is demoralising for you.

Your partner is watching porn with one of his friends? That's fucking grim.