AIBU?
Me again. Calling on all survivers of mental cruelty...
OhioOhioOhio · 22/11/2019 07:46
Please give me tips on how to quickly move on in my mindset from the abuse I get in the weekly contact I have to have.
Anyone?
It's like I just break free and he pushes me back down. Its endless and exhausting.
LuckyBug89 · 22/11/2019 08:01
Following! I am coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship with my narcissistic exP. I find no contact is best. We have a young DS together so I talk to him about that via text. I blocked him from messaging me on all other forms of social media and messaging apps as it was easier for him to bombard me and get inside my head - the breaking point was a panic attack at work - and this seems to be working for me. If he messages about DS I reply, if it's about anything I ignore, do not respond. I also used to allow contact at my house due to various reasons, now he comes and collects and drops off here, taking DS out for the day. Much more practical and healthier for all involved.
You don't have to be friends just be civil and communicate when necessary.
ColdAndSad · 22/11/2019 08:29
Have you tried CBT? It works by changing the way you think about things, and so affects the way you react to them. It's helped me a lot, but I did put a lot of effort into it.
If he's abusing you via written stuff, you could ask a trusted friend to read it and give you any useful information out of it. Keep his written comments, though, as they might come in handy later.
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