14 month old major preference for DH

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Anyone else experienced this? Started about 6 weeks ago and it’s a very obvious preference for his dad . Wondered if this is a normal phase and if it might just pass over time ?! I’m turning into a bit of a desperate try hard!

Very much a phase. Enjoy it while you can!

"Oh no DH, there's just no point in me doing bedtime.... DS just wants you."

Our oldest did this, for a few months at a time- and alternated between us.

Drove me crackers at the time, but has had no lasting affect on either of our relationships with her. I was more available so I think when Daddy was around she chose him as a more scarce resource.

Thanks! That’s heartening that I’m not alone in this !

Ugh we had this at about 16/17 months where not only did DS have a clear preference for dad he was also really horrid to me - did not want to spend any time with at all! I cried about it as it felt like a total rejection!

But it lasted less than 2 months and now I’m back in favour. Next time I won’t be so upset about it - as I’m sure there will be a next time!

Yes definitely a phase. I quite like it when they prefer daddy - especially in the middle of the night.

Enjoy it. It doesn’t last long unfortunately

They tend to ignore the one they take for granted, and the one they take for granted is the one they trust the most. I agree she could be seeing Dad as a more scarce resource.

And while the phase lasts, make the best of it. My cousin who had 5 kids told me the best thing you can do is to teach your small baby is to say Daddy, because when she screams for daddy in the middle of the night, that would melt and go and sort the problem while you continue with your well deserved rest. 😉

Yes found it really hurtful. My sister had this too both with our firstborns. Phase passed on thankfully

Christ dd1 was the same. Still the same now 9 years later 'i kinda love you mum but I love dad the most'

DD (19 months) goes through phases of this, and I do get a bit desperate when this happens, but when she needs comfort in the night or is ill, it's ALWAYS mummy she calls for.

My DS is 3.5 and has always wanted me more, I wish he'd go through a daddy phase!

We had this as well. One o& the NCT “guides” from a toddler group said “you are boring, like the furniture, there every day, daddy is the excitement”. It normally over after some time and then they are suddenly mummy-babies again.

Enjoy the peace. They still will love you.

My son did this when he was about 8 months old, used to drive me mad! I gave birth to him! I gave up my career for him! I got up in the night with him! But only bloody Daddy would do 🙄. It didn't last too long and I'm the one that he comes to for cuddles when he's poorly or wants to bore somebody rigid with fortnite chat.

My 1 year old is the same. For the first year I did everything for her and I mean everything, DP did nothing because he worked a lot of hours and tbh I was abit of a martyr about caring for her. She only wanted me,whatever she wanted I was the answer.

Then I went back to work. DP had 4 days off work around the same time and was thrown in at the deep end to look after her. He then went back to work and she went to a childminder. So 4 days of caring for her,just 4.

She now massively prefers daddy if she cries,she wants daddy, he is much more funny and she’s so much more excited when she sees him. I’m practically ignored! I feel like the last year of breastfeeding, bed sharing, attachment parenting, sling wearing bonding meant nothing to her!

Im too hoping it’s just a phase!

Mine did this at about 14 months, I was very upset, but it was definitely a phase!

Now I'm back at work and DP takes her to and from nursery, she's daddy's girl Tuesday-Friday, then it's all mummy Saturday-Monday

Enjoy it and pour yourself a glass of wine/gin/cup of tea!