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You don't have a right to park outside your house!

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LendAnEar · 21/11/2019 08:19

Burgh! Why is it that people feel that they have some God given right to park outside their home and can demand where other people can/can't park?

I parked on the road yesterday afternoon, in front of another car, getting the perfect spot, just before the double yellows start. There was a bin on the road behind the other car, I assume to reserve a space Hmm. It's difficult to find a parking spot so I was happy I got a space.

As I get out of my car another car coming towards me slows with their window down. A woman proceeds to shout "Excuse me, you're not allowed to park there, you need to move. I'm expecting a delivery".

I was annoyed at the way she spoke to me, condecending and assuming because I look young, that I don't know where I can/can't park. I replied that I can park there as it's a public road and I'm not on the double yellows. Lady repeats that I can't park outside her house all day and that I need to move. She has a delivery coming. The house she's referring to has an empty drive!

I simply say tell the woman I'm parked legally and not moving before walking away. The thing is, if she had been polite from the start and not so entitled and asked nicely if I would move then I would have. I just hate that people think they have a right to tell other what they can or can't do Angry

Now I want to be REALLY petty and park there every time I'm in the area but then again now I'm worried something will 'accidentally happen to my car which isn't worth it 🤷🏼‍♀️

OP posts:
Becca19962014 · 21/11/2019 11:28

Yes most people wouldn't park there, not saying I would just making the point.

ivykaty44 · 21/11/2019 11:28

Twice now I have come back to my car with a stroppy note telling me I'm not allowed to park there. It is their parking space and is for residents only. Except all the spaces come under the same parking

I know someone who had this happen, the following time he left a notice inside his screen

I am using dash am, anyone leaving notes on my windscreen - other than officials- will be recorded, if recorded twice It is harassment and I will have evidence for court

Strangely he never found notes on his car again or any damage

spanglydangly · 21/11/2019 11:29

@Catandstuff22 it is ok, long shifts, snow, rain you don't own the road.

I'm with the it boils my piss people thinking they own the road outside their house. I also move cones, they aren't supposed to be used to save spaces.

It's public land for anyone to drive on or park... those are the rules and end of conversation.

lyralalala · 21/11/2019 11:29

People are incredibly selfish. There’s a house in my street that has 5 cars (couple & 3 teens)

Shouldn’t be a problem as their drive can easily fit four cars - the previous occupants when having visitors fitted 6 on it - however they’ve put basketball hoops on the drive (they have a huge garden!) and they now all park in the 12 spaces on the street

lyralalala · 21/11/2019 11:31

Their cars means most of the people who don’t have drives now have to park a walk away.

They were so selfish when one neighbour was terminally ill (with a prognosis of days/weeks) they refused to join everyone else in leaving the space outside their house empty for the nurses/doctor/frequent ambulances

ivykaty44 · 21/11/2019 11:37

It’s about time drivers were charged for parking in streets at the appropriate market value, rather than cheap year rates. If a house is worth £250k then the parking spaces should be £250 for the first car, then £500 for each other car permit

Why should street parking be free or just £25

1984isnow · 21/11/2019 11:38

webuilt it was tongue in cheek!

I think a lot of people get 'ragey' just at the mention of on street parking. I reckon a lot of the comments 'they were so rude when they asked me to move' are people thinking it's rude to even ask iyswim? No matter the manner of the other person.

FWIW, I didn't think I was inconsiderate, I thought she had enough space (I could've fit mine in), and I had left enough space for the car in front to get out if they needed to. I managed to get out easily when she was parked behind me, as well.

OpheliaBee · 21/11/2019 11:39

My neighbour runs a class on a Thursday and all her clients park outside the little row of houses. We live on a quiet, largely single track, lane so it is a bit infuriating when I have to park miles away and trek back to the house with bags full of shopping and an angry baby. However I fully accept that a) I have no right to the parking spot outside my house and b) it was bad planning on my part to do my shopping on a day that I knew she’d have guests.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 21/11/2019 11:46

Used to live on a main road near a football ground, so Tuesday nights were very busy.
My neighbours blocked my parents drive a couple of times if the couldn't park outside their house. Unfortunately we used the livingroom at that back of the house so no one really looked out the front. Sadly for them, they would be woken at 3am by my dad asking them to move so he could go to work in the morning... If they'd knocked he would have have let them use the drive, but they never asked and he never mentioned.

I have the god given right to park outside my house though, because we have allocated parking 😂

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 21/11/2019 11:48

1984isnow - apologies for misconstruing your motives Grin

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 21/11/2019 11:53

I wouldn’t park in a disabled bay nor would I move parking cones, my df puts cones outside his house to save his parking spot and people are always moving them, difference is he owns half the road. I love it when the cheeky fuckers start arguing that they have the right to park anywhere if they want , well you fucking don’t so fuck right off

Is that a direct quote from the Highway Code or some other legal statute? Excessive swearing and abuse doesn't somehow turn your opinion into established law.

Your DF is fully entitled to put up signs and chains or barriers around the road that constitutes his own legal property - it is indeed illegal and outrageous if people are parking on privately-owned land. If, however, you mean that he owns a lot of property adjacent to a public road then he has no more right to park there than anybody else does.

He is the CF to put out cones to claim 'his' parking spot if he doesn't own that land - not the other legal road users who remove them.

woodchuck99 · 21/11/2019 11:57

normally an older blue badge holder will ask for a disabled bay to painted outside their home, which the council obligingly put in. And then you should see how f-ing cross some of these people get when other LEGITIMATE blue badge holders use "their" bay...

I can see why they are annoyed though as it will be outside their house specifically so the car is near to them. It's fair enough if another disabled user needs to park there because it is very near to where they want to go too but otherwise it is probably not any better than any other space on the street.

DontbeaBabs · 21/11/2019 11:59

It’s about time drivers were charged for parking in streets at the appropriate market value, rather than cheap year rates.

not sure I get where you are coming from

andyoldlabour · 21/11/2019 12:00

"my df puts cones outside his house to save his parking spot"

How does he own half the road?
Is it a public road?
How is it "his parking spot"?

AdobeWanKenobi · 21/11/2019 12:02

I know someone who had this happen, the following time he left a notice inside his screen

I am using dash am, anyone leaving notes on my windscreen - other than officials- will be recorded, if recorded twice It is harassment and I will have evidence for court

I'd be genuinely interested to know what dash cam he uses that is motion triggered when the engine is switched off. I know you can set them for impact triggers but not something as simple as motion from someone positioning a note.

Catandstuff22 · 21/11/2019 12:07

@spanglydangly damn it, I thought I did own the road so thank you so much for clarifying that for me ☺️
It's not about owning the road, it's about having some sort of consideration for the people around you fgs!!!!

Taswama · 21/11/2019 12:08

I would assume that’s an empty threat, but I like the friend’s style!

DontbeaBabs · 21/11/2019 12:08

AdobeWanKenobi
you can set up the parking mode to work on motion, not impact (on some of them at least)

spanglydangly · 21/11/2019 12:11

@Catandstuff22 so it's ok for them to walk further than necessary in the snow, rain (I presume sunshine 🌞 as well) but nothing you,

I will park in whatever space I'm allowed to legally allowed to park in and is most convenient for me. You'll never stop people doing that, it's not a matter of selfishness it's a matter of convenience.

daisypond · 21/11/2019 12:16

Why should street parking be free or just £25 it’s not where I live. It’s meter parking, or annual permits are dependent on engine size and go up to £300 a year for one car for residents. You couldn’t get a permit for even the tiniest vehicle for £25.

Frenchw1fe · 21/11/2019 12:16

We used to live near a school and frequently people would pull across our driveway to pick up a child. They assumed it wasn’t a problem until I turned up from my daughter’s school a mile away and couldn’t pull on my own drive or park because the whole road was full of parent’s cars. I would just have to sit blocking the road until the inconsiderate parker returned.
Luckily I usually walked so it didn’t happen too often.

Catandstuff22 · 21/11/2019 12:18

@spanglydangly you have completely contradicted yourself. Yeah, it's convenient for you!! What about everyone else? How selfish.

JinglingHellsBells · 21/11/2019 12:19

@LendAnEar I think your reaction was unreasonable. I don't have time to read the whole thread but you were wrong to assume her drive was suitable for a delivery. It could have been a huge HGV which was bringing a bed, sofa, white goods and was too big for her drive. Just because someone has a drive it doesn't mean it is ok for a lorry to get into it.
I think you should have tried to find another space, not because you were wrong to park there, but out of consideration.

Icanflyhigh · 21/11/2019 12:21

@Pomley, that next level of entitlement over a disabled parking space is hilarious!

We have recently moved from an end terrace with no driveways, so it was always nice to get the parking space outside our house when we could, however if we couldn't, we just parked elsewhere. No problem. DPs step dad has a blue badge, they came to stay with us and made full use of the disabled bay outside the house 2 doors down from us. The owner of that house is NOT disabled, but her mother (before she died) WAS!
Queue lots of door knocking and huffing and puffing, asking for us to move the car out of "her" space.... and me, a very blunt "No"

Fast forward a few months, she would knock on our door if anyone parked in that space and it got bloody annoying - so much so, that I used my job position to speak to the highways department and inform them that she didn't need a disabled bay as she isn't disabled. They wrote to her informing her of their intention to remove it, and she came to see ME, in my official capacity to ask me to fight her corner and keep the disabled bay - which I did, willingly!!!

So 3 months ago when we moved out, you can imagine my glee, when the new tenants of the property rock up, both disabled and promptly start using "her" space!!!😂😂😂😂

Karma is a bitch!!

AdobeWanKenobi · 21/11/2019 12:21

you can set up the parking mode to work on motion, not impact (on some of them at least)

Interesting, thank you.