Ive been with my do 11 years and have 2 children together. I fell out of love with him around 3 years ago. He is (was) lazy, only helped with school runs on days in was at worked other wise i did school runs, parents evening, swimming lessons, days out, hair cuts, bed time, home work, bath time, cooking cleaning, you name it i did it. Pretty much a single mum while he isolated himself away in the back living room. If he worked all day he felt he needed a day on his own to rest, if he didn't work he would feel depressed needed a day to himself (self employed so stress when work didn't come in). We have a clingy 3 year old and i haven't slept prob through the night since i had him nor had a lye in as partner to lazy/selfish to look after him. Financially i pay for everything apart from rent. Even everything for children (treats, trips, clubs) we fall out over this every few months and we make up with the promise of him changing, and he does... for a week then its back to his normal lazy self. He also speaks to me like I'm a piece of shit. Rolls his eyes when i talk and i get tge feeling im an annoyance to him. I almost left last year but he emotionally bullied me to stay and changed his ways for a few days then as always back to
His old self. I have now got a house, im ready to leave. And now he's promising to change, and he has changed and putting in more effort than ever. But will it be for long. Im so confused, why has it taken for me to leave for him to realise his bad ways. Is he trying harder as he really has realised or is it thst he knows ive got the means to leave this time. Can people actually change. He's messing with my head. Im so confused