That we are having to work around our parents? Christmas related

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Arranging to see Santa with Dsis and her family and our parents and me and my DS. The available dates to go i've put forward to mum and its been oh we are doing this, oh we are away then, oh you dad cant then, oh we are out the night before so that time is too early. I've finally said well if you cant come im going with DS and Dsis is coming too as we don't want our children missing out. She replied ok, we should have booked earlier. We meaning me because i did it last year. AIBU? I dont feel i am.

Well, I feel sorry for you OP, but if your mum is busy then I guess your mum is busy! Fine to go without her surely? And next year ask her further in advance or ask her to sort it

It doesn’t really seem like an issue, you tried to find a date, you couldn’t so you said you'd still go without her and she was fine with it but you should have booked earlier- she’s right you should have. Still seems like a complete non issue.

well she is missing out but seems utterly unconcerned so just go with your DSis and enjoy yourselves!

I put yanbu but it seems a bit of a non issue as she is happy not to come. I’ve never thought to involve grandparents in our Santa trips!

Her replying ok should have booked earlier isnt a non issue because i know shes annoyed. Theres a back story to my mums behaviour. My mum likes things to be revolved around her. Its the annoyance of having to work around dates they could do but not we could. I only said that to her when we had exhausted all dates.

you should have booked earlier

OP tried to book earlier.
She offered her mum several dates.
Mum turned down every date offered.
OP then said well I'm just going with DSis then.
Mum then said OP should have booked earlier.

Hardly OP's fault her mum is caught in a logic loop, is it?

The important thing is the children seeing Santa surely? It really does not matter if DM is there or not.