I posted earlier on about a friend having a relationship with a married man. This started me thinking. My father started another relationship after my mother died. Unfortunately, this relationship went seriously wrong after about ten years. One day he caught me totally by surprise by saying he had been seeing a woman for three years. All that time, I had been upset and worried because he was in a bad relationship.
Am I being unreasonable by thinking this wasn't a good thing to keep secret from me - especially as he knew I was upset about the breakdown of the relationship. (Not because I liked his partner but because I thought he was so unhappy.)
I just don't understand why people expect me to say that having an affair is ok. I have kept quiet about this but sometimes I want to tell him how upset I was that he let me believe he was so unhappy when he could have left at any time.