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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To not really want to work anymore?

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 19:30

I am 50 and although I have enjoyed working in the past, I would prefer never to work again. I feel I have done enough. It is not an option, I have to work for another 17 years. But anyone else feel like this?

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FabulouslyFab · 20/11/2019 19:53

I’m 61, single and when I retire will have just the basic pension (low pay jobs etc). I struggle to get by as it is and dread the day I retire, but long for it all the same. Bring on the lottery win ....

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 20/11/2019 19:54

I'm 46 and with a 4 year old ds I am exhausted. My job is just a job and while the people are lovely it's still a hard, thankless slog. I'm hoping to get my mortgage hammered down in the next 10 years and then go partial retirement or part time. I can't bear the thought of working until I'm 67.

woodhill · 20/11/2019 19:55

Yes definitely

Megsheeran · 20/11/2019 19:56

I feel just like you, early 50s and just plain worn out. I have no chance of retiring before 67 and in all honesty will probably have to work part time after that to get by. I scrape by and despite having a good job derive no enjoyment from it anymore and have zero ambition. I have just negotiated doing a 9 day fortnight but just use my day off doing the stuff I am too knackered to do on the other 9 days. I just seem to exist nothing more.

Velveteenfruitbowl · 20/11/2019 19:56

A brilliant argument for working hard and investing heavily when you’re young. Any chance you could be made redundant and get a good payout?

AdoraBell · 20/11/2019 19:57

I’m the opposite. Lived overseas for nearly twenty years, returned a few years ago. Started a job in the summer and I’m loving it. Back to retail, only part time despite that I would prefer full time, but after trailing after DH overseas and raising DC I feel like myself again. DH is talking about moving when the DC go to Uni next year and I’m thinking - hang on a minute, I’m not giving up my job.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 20/11/2019 19:59

No, I'm in Annusl Leave this week and am going up to work tomorrow to see everyone.

Look after young adults with LD and I really miss them when I have a few days off.

Perfectly happy to work and see these guys as much as possible. Love my job. Want to do it forever.

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:00

@velveteen Please don't fucking lecture me about working hard when I was young. I DID work hard when I was young. We don't all have incredibly well paid jobs. I am disabled and have done fucking well all things considering.
And I have only been in my current job for 2 years. Anyway it is not well-paid so redundancy payouts would never be high.

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tensmum1964 · 20/11/2019 20:00

I'm 55 and have worked since I was 16. The only time out I've had is short periods of maternity leave. I dread that I have to keep going until I'm 67. I also feel tired and to be honest angry at the thought of another 12 yrs.

Spitsandspots · 20/11/2019 20:02

I have 21 years to go and have painful arthritis already along with fibromyalgia. I don’t know how on Earth I’m going to make it. As it is all I do is work and sleep, I’m too exhausted to have a social life and struggle with even doing housework.

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:02

I think a lot of young people don't realise how when we were young there was a big pay gap between women and men. My first job all the young women were offered one job that was lower paid than the job all young men of the same age were offered. We were all interviewed for an entry level job.

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retiredandlucky · 20/11/2019 20:03

I've name changed and nobody wants to hear from me I expect but I was lucky enough to retire at 35. Some not very nice circumstances in my workplace led to this but I've been free ever since! I love it.

That said, prior to that I had a solid plan in place to retire by 50ish and was working towards that goal. For anyone young enough to do this I would say go for it. There are ways and means but it's not until you are often too late to do it that you realise you should've

GrumpyHoonMain · 20/11/2019 20:04

This is probably the perfect time to set up a business if possible. Something with low entry costs. Is there anything you’re good at that you could monetise?

retiredandlucky · 20/11/2019 20:05

I don't think velveteen was lecturing you! Merely saying that anyone that does have the means to work and save hard when they are young could learn from this thread isn't a dig at you OP

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:06

Setting up a successful business requires hard work. I really can't be fucked. That is something for young people.

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:07

@retiredandlucky If she wasn't I apologise.
I admit I am defensive about it because I have seen so many comments on MN from posters blaming women for being "lazy" and therefore not being able to retire young.

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GoldenZoe · 20/11/2019 20:08

God yeah! I'm a nurse and in my mid 50s and I'm KNACKERED!!! Will likely need to work till 67 though 😔😪

mindproject · 20/11/2019 20:08

I'm 47. I don't mind work too much, it's the people that piss me off. I also hate getting up at 6.30am. I'm going to have to keep working indefinitely as I don't have a pension and I don't think the state pension will still be a thing 25 years from now. I try not to worry about it.

SongforSal · 20/11/2019 20:09

I'm 37 and I am bloody knackered, with little enthusiasm about the work routine that dictates my life. Dp and I recently discussed taking the equity from our house (very small amount), saying fuck it and moving to a remote farmhouse in Europe, and frankly living a very simple life. We probably wont do that right now, but it's definitely on the horizon.

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:10

And no, retiring at 50 was never going to be an option for me unless I spent all the years before being incredibly frugal. There are not always ways and means. To fund an extra 17 years requires at least £250k, and that would mean living very modestly even then.
Everyone I know who has retired this young was either in a high paid job or inherited.

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Caramel78 · 20/11/2019 20:11

I’m only 31 and feel like this. I suffer with mental health issues and my physical health isn’t great either so every day at work is a massive slog. Working for another 30-40 years (if I survive that long) fills me with utter dread.

mindproject · 20/11/2019 20:11

Grumpy - great idea. Except 4 out of 5 businesses fail. I think now is the worst time to start a business.

dottiedodah · 20/11/2019 20:12

Do you relax when at home? Can you set aside some time to put your feet up .Maybe just set one or two days for Housework . Maybe get a Dishwasher if you dont have one ,order shopping online . Dont iron .Do quick meals/get slow cooker . Do less washing (Better for enviroment as well!)

EngTech · 20/11/2019 20:13

Fleetheart

You can do something else at your age, I did, day release when I was 53 and now in a totally different field from what I did for 30 years.

Now I just drink tea a lot, few biscuits and say no a lot or we have no budget to do things 👍👍😎

Worked for me 👍

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caranconnor · 20/11/2019 20:15

So what is your job?

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