Would you have been offended.....?

[Goodnightjude1]

My best friend (of 23 years) has recently had a baby. He is her first and I feel like I gave her a lot of help and support throughout her pregnancy and I still am, happily I might add!
She’s always been conscious of her weight and has spent years doing various diets...sometimes losing loads, sometimes not so much.
I had my youngest 9 years ago and after he was born I ballooned to18st 4lbs and was miserable. I felt embarrassed to have pictures taken with my son and virtually hid at home, not attending baby groups or seeing friends. When he was 7 months old I decided to join WW. Over the next 18 months I lost just over 7 stone. The plan suited me and I felt so much better in myself.
My friend was over today and was complaining about the weight she’d gained and I suggested WW (obviously she knew I’d been and that it had worked for me) I said I’d like to lose around a stone so would be happy to come along with her if she wanted. Anyway, she went very quiet and things seemed awkward for the next hour until she made an excuse to leave. She’s just sent me a message saying “Thanks for the offer to escort me to Fat Club but I’m sure I’ll manage”
Did I say something wrong? I wasn’t boasting about my weight loss and it was her that brought the topic up.
I feel awful to think I might have unintentionally upset her.

I must be a right cow then, because if I were the OP I'd be the one taking offence. I'd text back "sorry, Fat Club was very helpful to me, I see now you're too good for it"

Arsey mare

Agreed @pigeononthegate

I'd text back "sorry, Fat Club was very helpful to me, I see now you're too good for it"

Wow, that's harsh, really harsh, clearly she's not saying she's too good for fat club, she's saying she didn't realise she needed to go.

Personally if a friend whinges to me about putting on weight, my immediate go to response is you look fine, only if and when they say they want to do something about it would I be supportive. So for example if she said, I want to join weight watchers, then I'd have said I'll come too.

I wouldn't sit with a friend who'd just had a baby and was whinging about pregnancy weight and immediately jump in with go to fat club. Some times people just want a whinge, they don't want you to confirm that yes indeed they are fat and need to do something about it.

Suspect the op is right when she says she thinks she jumped in prematurely with the suggestion.

A woman who has just had a baby, saying she's out on weight, seldom will meet the response of, yeah you're right, you should join fat club, with gratitude.

I think too that she just wanted a bit of reassurance that she looked ok rather than practical advice. I’d have been hurt if somebody said that to me tbh esp with exhaustion and unsettled hormones after having a baby.

My sister said something similar to me and I was very hurt although I never told her.

It really is better to look after your mental health first and foremost after having a baby.

I’d pick up the phone and suggest meeting up with the baby and going for a nice lunch together.