To freak out about 12 year old dd and boys? Help needed

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So my daughter is 12 she has a phone and I've gone through it and I don't like Messaged I have seen.

She likes a boy and is very full on with him and their chats are about her forcing him to hold hands with her and things like this. She said she loves him, he said it back. It's all too full on!

She is also now friends with his friends who are all boys and they are in a group where they play truth or dare on WhatsApp. In this group they dare each other things like tell this boy or girl you like them.

One boy text another boy saying he wanted to lick his balls

And there has been dares like tell this person you like them and want to f**k them

I'm so not happy about Any of this.

Thank you all for the replies, I appreciate it.

Wow its so difficult to parent children of this age. I hate the internet and mobile phones being used by kids

So we have had a chat! I managed to keep her in the room and she didn't run off. She has been crying and saying things like "I'm sorry" and "it's fine I won't talk to them anymore"

I explained it's not a case that I don't want her to talk to boys, I want her to have self respect and not to run after boys! I also don't want her using language that is not suitable for young ladies.

Well she is crying a lot I guess because she is embarrassed

Good to hear you had a chat OP. I agree it is so difficult in digital age, it seems like they are zooming ahead and exposed to things that they are just not mature enough to cope with. While I agree with restrictions, I think that an outright ban is not always the answer. I think it's better to keep monitoring and most importantly keep communicating.

Hi. I agree with letting her keep her phone but policing it. I agree with the poster who said about the French letting them have wine at 15. My dd is 14 I allow her to have small amounts of alcohol, We talk about sex etc openly as a family and my daughter is very mature for her age and tells me everything.