To not keep swapping my shifts?

[Talkthirtytome]

I work 2 afternoons a week, and my parents kindly have my 2 year old to enable me to do so. I worked every Tuesday and Friday, but a lady I work with asked if I would swap my Tuesday with her Wednesday as she has another job. I asked my parents and my dad shifted around his work (he’s semi retired) so that I could do Wednesdays instead.
I did one week of my new days and the following 2 weeks she has text me the night before asking if we can either swap back or can I do both days for her. I’ve said no, as I said because it’s not fair on my parents or I already had plans for the next day.
AIBU or is she taking the piss?

I don’t think she is taking the piss to ask as such, unless she gets annoyed that you won’t do it! I think you are right to say no though as you already went to a lot of trouble to help with her original request! You did what you could even though it didn’t suit you and that was very nice of you!

I would tell her in a nice way you need fixed days as you have to arrange childcare, this should stop her texting.

@Yummy Thank you. I know what you mean. She shouldn’t have asked me to swap if she then isn’t able to do the day that she wanted to swap to!
I don’t want her to think I’m being awkward but I said I would swap as long as it stays that way as I can’t mess everyone about for her x

@Mrsbclinton I told her last week that I couldn’t do it as I have no one to have my little boy on a Tuesday anymore. But last night at 8pm I get a text asking if I could do both today and tomorrow for her. I just said no I can’t I’m afraid and then she text me several times asking for numbers of other staff members 🙈

She is taking the piss. You re-arranged shifts once and now she thinks you are fair game.

Just keep saying no. And tell the manager, think they need to know that she keeps asking.

@Havaina I think I will tell the manager to be honest. I thought last week was maybe a one off but then she asked again last night. It’s not even as though she has asked in advance, it’s been between 8-10pm the night before I’ve had the texts. I don’t want them to think I’m being awkward as I say, but I need to have set days and can’t change at last minute. He had said I was the only one who could have maybe swapped (which I did) and if I couldn’t have done it they would’ve let her go.

Dont swap again and dont give out staff phone numbers. She can discuss this directly with them. If she gives you any grief speak to your manager.

As others have said, stand firm as you've already accommodated her and now she's moving the goal posts. I'd refer her back to your line manager for any future requests (if that's appropriate) after repeating that I was not going to change my childcare arrangements.

He had said I was the only one who could have maybe swapped (which I did) and if I couldn’t have done it they would’ve let her go.

Yes definitely speak to him. He knows about the swap but needs to know about her asking again and again.

Next time she asks you tell her that you accommodated her original request but that you are not able to re-arrange your working hours again due to childcare issues and please could she speak to the manager if she has any issues.

I don’t want her to think I’m being awkward but I said I would swap as long as it stays that way as I can’t mess everyone about for her

Let her think what she likes, you chopping and changing every five minutes and inconveniencing your dad too, because she's flaky about which day she can/wants to work and too cowardly to actually speak to you about this so hiding behind texts isn't your problem.

It's probably also not allowed to give out other people's phone numbers without their agreement. Tell her that you will stick to the current arrangement as you can't change your childcare arrangements again and if she has a problem with it, she has to sort it with work herself.

YANBU to say no but neither is she unreasonable to ask. She hasn't made a fuss but just asked for telephone numbers of others to see if they can help. (That may be an issue though and I would never give someone else's number out, unless they are works numbers, without permission from the person to give it out to her).

Just keep saying No and tell her to speak to your manager if she keeps getting shifts she can't do. Put it on her to sort.

@TheMidasTouch

She is unreasonable to keep asking after OP has already accommodated her. Now she wants to swap back! That is not reasonable behaviour.