To put almost 6 year old in pull up...

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Hi just looking for some advice. Have a weekend away with DH coming up soon. It's for a close friends wedding. Two nights away. Not had a weekend away in years so its unusual for me.

Sister will be looking after DS(7) & DD(6) both nights (in her own home). My DD is an infrequent bedwetter. Seems only to happen when she is overtired or out of routine - maybe first night if we're on holidays. It doesnt happen frequently enough for me to consider pull ups at home, we have waterproof mattress protector and put huggies bed mats underneath for extra protection and it's fine. She isn't hung up about it and is happy as she is so don't want to make a bigger deal of it than we need to.

Would I be unreasonable to ask DD to wear pull ups the 2 nights away from home? Obviously I don't want her to wake up wet in a strange bed when I'm not there to help. Or should I just have my sister do things as I do at home and hope for the best. But also I obviously don't want my sister having to deal with it seeing as she's kind enough to look after the kids. Fyi she is a great sister and would be well able to manage and is great with the kids i just feel why put her through it on top of having the kids for the weekend!

Seems silly but I am stressing about this and it's not for weeks yet so wondered about pull ups but my DH thinks we shouldn't use them.

Thanks for reading if you've got this far😊

At almost 6 I think I'd give your DD the choice of whether she'd like to wear a pull-up or not.

Put one in her bag so she has the option of whether or not to use it, maybe also put in a disposable bed mat so that if she does have an accident the mattress is protected.

Sounds sensible, provided DD is happy to - she'll probably see the sense too, especially if you make sure she knows it's "just in case because you're in a strange place" rather than because you're expecting problems.
Mine went back into pullups for the first holiday after abandoning them - the bathroom was downstairs and we all agreed it would be easier.

I’d definitely pop some of the disposable bedmats in for your sister to use. Have a chat with dd and give her the option.

Venger, planning on sending the mats regardless. And offering my sister our house key with the offer of sleeping here if need be.

Mainly just want everyone happy so I can relax and not stress about it. Letting DD decide is a good idea too👍

Surely you've already spoken to your sister about this? What's her opinion?

I would just send her with 2 waterproof sheets.

Bed pad/mat underneath her or two and if an accident they can be put in the bin.

I would (and do!) give a 6yr old a bedtime pull-up while she's away. Noone needs to deal with a wet bed at 3am.

My 6 year old is very very occasionally wet - like, once every 4 months maybe if he's poorly, or exceptionally tired. I still give him a pull up when we stay at GP or hotel, because I do not need to be changing a top bunk/finding sheets at 3am! It's not a big deal, he understands it's just-in-case. I also give his 4 year old brother a pull up too - although I don't recall him ever being wet overnight!!

Imfreetodowhatiwant - sister is ok with whatever dd will be happy with. Just I was thinking myself that seeing as she's being kind enough to look after them that I want it to be as straight forward as possible.

Thanks everyone 😊

If I was looking after a kid that easnt mind, that wets the bed when not in a routine, I'd expect pull ups due to the high chance of bed wetting. Even with mattress protector on there is still the hassle of middle of the night wake and change clothing and sheets etc and she might be embarrassed

I would do the waterproof sheet and mat. Worse case your sister only has to throw the mat away and stick the sheets in a washing machine. 10 min job. Self esteem and pride bigger for dd......she doesnt need to remember her mum asking her to wear a pull up. If she did it every night at home I would say it's fine. But I woul8d ask her to wear one. They want to feel grown up at 6 and I would worry she will either say no and then worry at her aunts that she should have said yes. Or say yes and feel babyish in front of aunt siblings or cousins. Pack spare pjs and tell her if she has an accident not to worry. Lots of children do and aunt wont mind. Just put on fresh pjs and get aunt to put down a fresh sheet. It's only a few nights your sister will cope.

My FS had an 8 year old friend stay over and he called me aside to say he was going to wear pullups to bed & asked me where he should put them in the morning. I gave him a plastic bag & said to put them in there & then in the bin. Didn't mention it to my kids so as not to embarass him & was all fine. Not a word about it before or after from his mum, who i know but not really well. It was pretty much a non-event but I was a bit surprised at the time 🤷‍♀️

(DS not FS!)

Yes, let her wear one for the two nights. Dd2 was still in pull ups every night until not long before she was 7 so I’ve sure been there. Peace of mind for you all.