To put the heating on in the middle of the night?

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I have a 3yo. Split from her dad last year. She spends two nights a week there and sleeps until 7-7:30 regularly, but at home it's 6-6:30. I honestly don't think he's making it up, and the only thing I can think at the moment is she's warmer there than here, it's just a warmer house.

So AIBU to set the heating to come on for half an hour at day 5am, in the hope it takes the edge off and makes her sleep longer??

Try it an see if it helps her and you.

Worth a try. Is he feeding her later than you normally would?

Does the boiler make a lot of noise firing up though? If it does that might disturb her. Also, what about how light/dark the different rooms are, if his room is darker and quieter it will be more conducive to good sleep.

Why would it be unreasonable to put the heating on for half an hour? I'm sure growing up ours was on a timer in winter so it wasn't freezing in the mornings

Mine comes on twice during the night. It helps my newborn sleep better.

Also why on earth do you need random internet approval to turn your heating on, thinking about it that's just strange 😂

What an odd thing to ask, has someone told you that you need permission to decide when you have your heating om?

Mine comes on at 5.30 during the week and 6.30 on weekends so it's nice and warm when we start to wake up.

Once the winter is here properly and it starts getting bitterly cold I'll have it come on for a half hour at around midnight just to top the temperature up as the cold wakes youngest DD up.

It's fine. My heating comes on at 5am anyway.

If I wake up cold in the night I will put it on. Have Hive on my phone.

Yes definitely worth a try!

How could you possibly be unreasonable to put your own heating on when you want to?!

Ofc it helps
Our house has a temp on all day all year if it reaches that at any point the boiler goes
Because my children sleep all night and my friends don't I know this is the only difference
I am not a better parent then them or any more stimulating
It is the heat

Do you have a thermostat, my minimum temp is set at 16 degrees over night. The heating will kick in if it gets below that, which it only does on very cold nights.

She might also stay up later at her dads.

My heating is on all night. We all sleep better.

@chickennu agree

It would make more sense just to set the thermostat to whatever you think is a minimum comfortable overnight temperature. Then if the house drops below that temperature the heating will come on for long enough to bring it back up to the level which you set.

Y’know, ladies - I think some people post things on this forum as a way of getting advice. They’re not literally asking if they’re being unreasonable in their actions, or asking permission from others to do things - but it’s a way of inviting opinions. A sort of ‘do you think this might help?’ ‘Are there any other factors I haven’t considered here?’ ‘I’m on my own here, with a baby which is a new experience for us all at one time or another, does anyone have any advice?’ Joyful as it undoubtedly is to pounce on the OP and indicate that she’s too meek to operate her thermostat without your superior, collective judgment maybe just give people the benefit of the doubt from time to time. Maybe - who knows? - show some humanity.

My heating goes on at 5pm and switches off at 8am the next morning. My house is freezing if I don't.

Thanks, most of you. @TrussBuss exactly, if I posted this in sleep or parenting I just don't get answers, hence donning my hard hat and coming here.
@cultkid that's what I was hoping to hear! I put it to come on for half an hour at 5 and she slept until 7, hurrah!
Everything else seems the same re bedtime and good time at both houses, if anything she goes to bed slightly earlier there!

I cant have mine on during the night as it makes me feel ill and stuffy....also its quite noisy...i put mine on as soon as i wake up though.

Yanbu. Mine slept better when the house was warm. So do I.

Let me know how it goes tonight
I hope you both sleep better xxx

I'm wondering if he's honest over what time she goes to bed. I know my h lied whenever he was left alone with mine, dd told me that he had told them not to tell me (I took a course that meant I was out 2 evenings a week) he didn't realise she could tell the time at 4. Same goes for friends dp's, men don't seem to get bedtime

mines on all night as we are awake any way(disabled kids dont sleep)and its gets bloody cold where i am(on top of a mountain in the welsh valleys)

it hit -4 last night but we have hive attached to alexia and a alexia in every room(yes even the toilet)so we just ask her to put it on and off at will

because of naked children(sensory issues)i have to keep the air warm not the person

its usually 35-40 degrees

its usually 35-40 degrees

Centigrade? That sounds extremely uncomfortable! (And horrendously expensive.) 😱

(Farenheit equally uncomfortable, but much cheaper.)