Or more specifically make him leave!
I'm sad to say that six months on from us having the last talk, and me crying all the way through our mini break, things haven't changed, in fact they're worse.
Main issues are his refusal to get help for his depression and anxiety, his alcoholism, his lack of self care and hygiene and his hatred of my social life. I'm not perfect, but I really struggle to see how him drinking beer at 10am, his lack of positivity and transformation into dirty old man who you would avoid sitting next to on a bus are my fault. I've asked him to get help, I've asked him to go to AA, I've contacted local authorities, he refuses.
Recent event was Saturday night when I went out with my friends. Told him I'd be home at 10, text him to say that I was having a nice time and would be home at 12.30. This resulted in him texting me that he 'hoped that the dick was worth it as I'd killed our family' and that he was 'going to go out, you'd better get back or the kids will be left alone.' I don't see how I can ever forgive him. In the morning he started drinking super strength cider and called me a slag in front of our four year old.
What can I do? We own the house together although not tenants in common. I put in a £200,000 deposit. He pays the £350 mortgage. I think I could pay that and other bills if I went full time. How do I get him out?