Hi,
Apologies for the long post but i need some help and advice...
I had a DD in March 2019, i went on mat leave when i was around 8 and half months pregnant (i have worked since i was 17 and now 27 - to add i started my job just after i was 3 months pregnant although i didnt know at the time of leaving my job), whilst on mat leave my dad had a brain aneurysm the week before i gave birth so this was pretty horrendous being so far gone and about to drop, dad survived but is not the same person now. Anyway to add to this whilst in labour, the midwife messed my birth up and as she was incompetent to check me quickly as i knew i was ready she sat and waited, once the midwife changed over i had to give birth within half an hour before they would intervene, luckily i managed to have DD before 30 minutes was up but when born she wouldnt cry and struggling to breathe and we ended up in neonatal unit (hospital messed up quite a lot of stuff and have investigated and openly admitted that they failed and if i had her an hour earlier we would've been fine without any neonatal etc)... anyway, i was on mat leave until July when my partner took 2 weeks shared parental as he was changing jobs and my MIL had DD for 2 weeks, after being at work for a month i realised i wasn't ready to be back at work and was signed off by the doctors for post natal depression. I have now been signed off for 4 months and the job i currently have is not suitable for me and my partner, i would be better off staying at home or working part time as childcare is ridiculous and we are far away from both sides of the family so no childcare support from them and i am also 4 and half months pregnant (unplanned and the biggest shock of my life) and still not quite ready to go back to work- i need to know what my next step is? IF i quit my job will i be sanctioned by universal credit? if so does anyone know how long and how much will be deducted? although i believe you cannot be sanctioned for quitting your job and having a baby under 1 but will this be the same when i am currently signed off sick and i went back to work for a month? My anxiety is through the roof as i need to get this sorted ASAP as doctors note runs out in 2 weeks and i dont want to get signed off again if i can get this resolved without having to do so? Please no harsh judgement, 2019 has been a bad year apart from my DD and i just need some help with what to do next.
Thanks for any help....