...to cook a roast even after lunch in a cafe?

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We had lunch in Morrisons cafe today (toddler DD’s fave ‘restaurant’) after doing weekly shop. I had a jacket pot, DD had a kids pasta, DSs are only 11mo so shared a kids’ lunchbox and DH ordered their ‘Big Daddy’ breakfast with extra toast, extra black pudding, an extra egg on top of 3 of everything.

Came home and started getting the roast dinner on and DH says “surely you’re not cooking a roast after my HUGE lunch!” I reminded him there are 4 other people in the house who haven’t had what he’s had and said he could just have a bit if he wasn’t hungry. He said it’s a waste of time because we should all have had a big lunch and a smaller tea. I’m annoyed but not sure why!

OP your roast sounds spectacular. My DH does this though, claims lack of hunger due to having a big breakfast. Then eats it anyway. I LOVE a roast. I'd have one every other day if I could.

Your DH is being a total idiot. Roast dinner is generally a healthy meal if you have plenty of vegetables so good for your children. I certainly wouldn't see as a high calorific meal but even if it was you and your children didn't eat loads for lunch.It sounds to me like your DH could do with just eating some vegetables from the roast after that breakfast.

The posters who think a jacket potato is a huge meal or treat are nuts.

Pork & crackling, stuffing balls, roast potatoes, maple parsnips, carrot & swede mash, broccoli, carrots, kale and gravy

I might make some crumble but not enough for leftovers. Just to be petty

What a bloody waste to cook all that yummy food when the majority of people won’t be able to do it justice. And as for leftovers, meh

What counts as doing it justice? OP said nothing about the quantities she was planning to cook except for the crumble: the description she gives could involve some quite small portions. Adding a couple of bits of root veg to the pork and steaming some broccoli and kale would be pretty low effort, after all. And just because the three little ones will be on children's small portions doesn't mean they won't tuck in with gusto.

@ApacheTomcat hit the nail on the head.

Typically male attitude.

1. should have reminded him you were planning a roast
2. tell him that maybe he should think of others before his stomach

I don't understand the whole cooking a roast every Sunday anyway. It seems too full on. If it was a special occasion, maybe. But do people really go to the trouble of actually doing a roast every week these days? It's very excessive, especially with children that young who don't eat that much anyway, it's a waste. If you have a good lunch out, you should only need to pick at sandwiches or something for dinner.

I hate cooking so I would happily have had a big meal in Morrisons !!! ... but if someone else was cooking a roast I’m sure I’d have managed a bit !

should have reminded him you were planning a roast tell him that maybe he should think of others before his stomach

He's her DH not her primary aged DS.

How old is your daughter? Because it seems you were cooking a massive meal for just you and her, your younger kids won't eat much of your husband and so it seems that was an awful lot of food for one of two people.

My treats do not involve a view of a trolley bay and/or Tracey at till 14.

This above has to be a classic quote. No, OP you were right, DH was wrong!

Personally I find it absolutely impossible to eat a whole jacket potato. I have to split them into 7 and have one portion each day. Obviously I can't eat a roast on any of those days because i'm still stuffed from the lunch potato.

I hope you enjoyed your roast OP

I went out to lunch on Sat in place DH had suggested. Then he said 'I'll just have a coffee'. He couldn't work out why I was mad that he'd chosen to come out for lunch and then not ordered food. He did order something to eat when I pointed out I had no plans for another meal that day. I suspect one of you should have pointed out the discrepancy in Morrison's. Either you saying, Are you sure you want such a big lunch, we are having a roast later? Or he could've questioned your small lunch choice and suggested you could have the roast another day? I would suspect you had the right of it as your dc would probably have needed another meal anyway.

We have a roast every Sunday. I love it, especially on weeks my husband cooks it. We grew up having a roast every Sunday and I've just carried on when I left home. No more effort than any other meal really.

It’s not a waste to cook it if OP wanted it and likes it! Cooking a meal all for yourself is allowed, and it’s even allowed to be a yummy, hard work, elaborate, expensive meal. Just because a man’s not going to eat it doesn’t make it a waste.

Personally I find it absolutely impossible to eat a whole jacket potato. I have to split them into 7 and have one portion each day. Obviously I can't eat a roast on any of those days because i'm still stuffed from the lunch potato.

Wow. How do you manage to eat a seventh of a potato? I just sniff the spud and that keeps me full up.

I looked at a potato last month, haven't eaten since.

This reminds me of my other half. We had a long distance relationship and I used to go visit him and stay there and he would have a massive lunch then say he didn't want any tea but I'd be starving cos would have a normal sized one. It then made it awkward making food cos not my house

I wouldn’t class a £3.50 jacket in Morrisons a good lunch out. We have a roast every week and sometimes in the week too. It’s an option everyone happily eats and slimming world friendly.

I’m torn on this - I honestly think it depends how much you usually eat, if that doesn’t sound daft. I am not a big eater at all....and, obviously, my DH knows this. So if he sees me tucking into a big lunch, he’ll assume that this is “main meal” and would make his own food choices accordingly. That said - we’d probably have a conversation along the lines of “What are we having for dinner and at what time?”, so there wouldn’t be any ambiguity about it. Sounds like a case of miscommunication to me; he thought you were having your main meal (and ordered accordingly), whereas you thought you were just having a snack. That said, he is being pretty unreasonable to police everyone else’s food intake!

Not a roast but we've just had the same conversation about christmas cake. Every year my daughter and I make2 cakes 1 with extra nuts for dh and a normal one for the other 3 adults who live here. Dh said " don't bother with cakes this year because i'm not fussed" cue me looking looking round the kitchen and asking who he's talking to because obviously he now lives alone. Twat.

I don't find a roast hard (peel stuff, bung it in oven). If DP doesn't want to eat much, he doesn't have to. The kids can only fit so much in though, and are going to want more, and if you want a roast, you can have one, and sod the lot of them.

It is a vast amount of food op. If a large meal has been eaten at lunch, then yes, a smaller dinner/tea for sure. Isn't the point of eating out to take away the hassle of having to cook?

Huge for him - but OP only had a jacket spud, and the eldest a kids pasta (which probably wasn't enormous). So the rest of them are going to be fine with a roast dinner, don't have to tailor their meals to the man of the family these days.