How do you respond to intimidation?

[AmbitiouslyFit]

How do you Respond when someone is thrift to get a reaction out of you and doing everything they possibly can and they won’t stop at you merely ignoring them.

It is not possible to report. And finding it difficult to ignore and not react.

My question is about emotionally how do you restrain yourself from reacting.

My mind keeps wantjnf to “put them in their place and show them” but doing that will be highly unsettling for the atmosphere and everyone around us.

I’m about to face a situation tomorrow where I need to keep my cool but I know a certain person has a great opportunity at getting a rise out of me... and I’m trying my best to talk myself out of reacting in a way that’s “deserved” and instead think of the bigger picture.

Help plz

Sorry sleeplessly typing on phone and autocorrect isn’t my friends.

Was meant to say :

Someone is trying to intimidate*

It is not possible to report

Why?

We need some context op

What is the context of this situation?

Can't help unless we know the variables.

for example, but it’s not the case here,

If you have an ex who tried to use your child to passive aggressively hurt you.. and your child believes them..

How do you help yourself let logic trump your feelings of anger and wanting to “set things right” by thinking of how to fix the narrative in the short term and telling your child how their father is a lying idiot and listing all the evidence??

What helps you in the moment remain mindful of the bigger picture and not submit to the natural emotional reaction to accusations/undermining so on.

This is not the scenario as mine is too complicated and I’m not sure how to describe it to be honest but I feel the emotions involved in both situations are similar.

Sorry op, but you're simply not being clear enough for anyone to give practical advice. Your example involves the well-being of a child which would put an entirely different approach to a situation in which a child wasn't involved. Again, proper, accurate context is needed.

Say 'anyway on that note' and then move on to the next thing. If they say you're being antisocial just say you're distracted
I've been through this and sympathise

In your scenario, you'd ask yourself what your long term goal is. Or in simple terms, will you get what you want by getting your narrative across there and then.

No you wouldn't. You'd be apart of damaging your child's emotional wellbeing and long term, you'd damage your relationship with that child.

'Setting things right' doesn't always put you in the winning postion. Sometimes to 'win' takes, strategy and tactical action, not an emotional response.

Don’t engage, keep your distance.

It's impossible to advise, not knowing the situation but you need to keep your cool so just grey rock everything they say.

Do you think this person might make you cry? Here's a trick. Pinch the loose, fleshy part of skin between your thumb and index finger if you can feel your eyes going.

Respond with a threat display of your own,? Puff up /flex, bare your teeth and hiss. Or perhaps play dead Al la dinner for schmucks?

I kind of wish I could do that. Usually I just settle for deep calming breaths

Two options...smile sweetly and say"moving swiftly on" or my preferred option, dont ignore it and call it out. People like this won't stop until confronted. other people being uncomfortable is not your problem or your fault and may even secretly congratulate you for standing your ground.

In your mind step back and remind yourself they are trying to control you, so you act how they want you to. Remind yourself of that and it helps to not react they way they are trying to force you to act.

Different scenarios will alter the advice e.g.
Shit stirring aunty- sweetly smile and change subject.
Bullying colleague- stand up and confront.
Domineering ex- avoid contact; raise eyebrow and give bored "what are you doing" look.

Changeup are much better off changing your name and explain the situation as best as you can. You might get some great advice.