To walk the fuck away

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Posting here as there are people here that recognize my story....
Split with H cause he was a dick on holiday, quickly hooked up with ex from 23 years ago (DS 1 dad) for what I thought would be a quick fling then done.
Was given the good advice to have nothing to do with either of these men.
Advice taken. Ex of 23 years not taking thiz very well.... any advice in how to strongly end it without being really shitty to my sons dad?

You don't owe anyone a relationship.

What do you mean by 'not taking it well'?

This isnt going to work I dont want to upset our good relationship for the sake of our son we need to not do this

Constant reasons why we should be together. I know I should go NC but all his family are at me telling me how much he's improved health wise and how happy he is now. I feel like shite.. the sitiation with his ex and they all deal with her is draining my soul.

Go NC

As a man I think there is a lot more to being a dad than donating sperm. Has the Dad been around and supportive of the Mum and of the son? If not he is not a Dad so just ignore him.

Hi Dear EX - we had a great time but it was a one-off for me. I am sorry if this has hurt you but I want us to have a "friend" relationship only for the sake of our DS.

33John470322 - he was around untill got with wife. Contact sporadic thereafter. That was some of DS choice as wife not a very nice person. ( ex warned about this by MANY friends and family) but can't help who u fall in love with.
I still had limited contact regarding our son as said wife hated me but was always in touch with his mum and have remained close with her.

Be shitty to him if that's what it takes for him to leave you alone.

OP you were told on the last thread. He isnt your responsibility.

The relationship moved far too fast, involved with eachothers kids, problems with his ex moving close etc.

Block him. Your son, with him is an adult. If he wants to see him he can arrange himself.

Tell him its over and to stop contacting you. Theres no reason for him to contact you.

I dont want ro sound nasty, but it occurs to me that you enjoy the drama or the fact that he really wants you. We dont keep engaging in the same behaviour again and again if we arent getting something out it. Even if what we are getting isnt healthy.

14MsRomanoff - I can honestly see why u say that. And there is no excuse apart from the fact I'm a complete fucking wuss.

Just say it's too complicated and confusing for your son if you got back together, and you have to do what's best for him. It didnt work out the first time and you just cant risk that happening to your son again, and you dont want to mess up your friendship

If you have tried to end things already and he's not happy, just block him. I don't think using the excuse of it confusing your 23 year old son will work . Stop worrying about his bloody feelings and put your own feelings first.