Speak up or stay quiet?

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I have an elderly great aunt (90s), who lives in the middle of nowhere 300 miles away, on her own after husband died 15 years ago.

It's her birthday weekend and I always visit this time of year, and again in spring.

I also ring her every day, send flowers or gifts each month, just keep her spirits up as she is so isolated and genuinely lovely.

So this weekend I booked hotel and came up to visit, posted on SM that I was here and other family members have all jumped on the "say hello from us" "wish her happy birthday" etc etc
AIBU to want to tell them to sod off??
They never bother, I was the only person from the family to attend my uncles funeral,not even a Christmas card, she is the last remaining elder of the family and it's like she doesn't exist to them!!
Yet I just know when the time comes that she passes away they will all play the grieving loved ones with their false tears and poignant SM posts.
Winds me up beyond words how false they are when it would cost nothing to give her a call, AIBU to be wound up by this?

I’d respond with a friendly “she’d love it if you gave her a quick call to say hi yourselves”.

@TabbyMumz I hope they do, can't see it!
Fair enough, not my job to make out they're awful! Totally agree

Sorry to hear about her health. I live out in the sticks too but have a good council so sometimes you'd be surprised at the services available. Might be worth talking to the local councillor as they will know what's available.

Winter flower planting and getting the feeders out is just the ticket.

Best of luck.