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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To confront or get over it?

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boeballs · 16/11/2019 14:04

A lady a work behaves like she is my boss, but she is not. I moved into her team recently purely to help out as the project was a mess. We are the same level.. despite what she may think. My boss said I needed to go in and sort out the mess... it’s fine but she does things like come into meetings I am running and disrupting them with key members of the account. I do find this undermining, but not sure if that is just my ego.

Yesterday I was asked by my boss to attend a new project meeting. She told the project group, she would take the meeting as I needed to focus on my current project. I am fuming and don’t know how to respond.. part of me just thinks, leave it it’s not worth it.. the other part of me wants to make it clear with her that she does not get to decide for me!

I genuinely just want to be that person that does not get involved in politics, turns up at work, does job, goes home... but I can’t seem to let this go in my head...

This often happens to me and I make bad decisions because of what could just be my ego, so thought I would put this to you wise women.

So AIBU to want to confront her over this? And if so how to do it in a way that does not make me look like an egomaniac.

Of just leave it. Life’s too short and focus on getting myself back to my original team!

OP posts:
BigBairyHollocks · 16/11/2019 21:17

Bumping for you,but I would confront.This woman is undermining you and it’s unacceptable, just do it in a polite but firm way. Remind her she is not your boss and you’re more than capable to speak for yourself.

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