Did too injured to play her sport this morning but wants to ice skate this evening

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DD (13) hurt her leg a few weeks ago. Went to the dr, diagnosed as mild tendon damage, told to rest it.
She plays football for a girls team. She hasn't now played for three weeks. Trained on Thursday and said it was ok but a bit achey afterwards. Told coach she would miss Friday training but try and play a bit today.
She was at exh's last night. He messaged this morning to say she wasn't now going to play as she is worried about her leg.
Fine.
She is due to go ice skating this evening and then a sleepover for a friends birthday.
I have said I don't think she should skate. Her leg is injured enough for her not to play football (and that's a fairly big deal-coach is a Keano, it's competitive to get in the squad), then she is surely too injured to skate. Additionally it would be all over her socials and it would definitely be seen by the coach and the rest of the team who would question her injury if she was seen skating on it. (this has been something she herself has been concerned about as it's not a visible injury as such).
She is now in a huge strop, hates me, and 'isn't going to the sleepover as what's the point?'
AIBU to say to her she should go and watch the skating and do the rest as normal?

Title should clearly say DD not did-bloody phone.

I’m with you. No sport, no skating.

YANBU, I think.

Totally spot on I wouldn't let her either

You’re right. She is taking the piss

Maybe look at why she doesn’t want to,play

Agree with you but she should go to the sleepover.

Her confidence has been dented lately but when asked has said she still wants to play.

Sorry I wasn't clear. I think she should go and just watch the skating, and then do the rest of the sleepover as normal-anything else is punishing her friend and she will be cutting her nose off to spite her face.

I don't know - if she's not a total beginner a gentle skate while chatting is totally different to actual training and sharp changes of direction...

If it's ice hockey or showing off not so much.

If it's an ankle the boots are more supportive than football boots too. I'd definitely ski when not happy to run!

I’d let her make her own decision on it, and if the football coach has an issue then she can deal with that too in due course? It’s an awkward situation, but she’s old enough to have a say so I wouldn’t be micromanaging this too much? If her leg does hurt when she skates she would probably skate a bit then come off and rest anyway, so I would just let her get on with it

Knee injury.

It won’t be the same as a football game and some gentle exercise can actually help her to recover. Ice skating with friends is not going to put too much strain on it.

Well upshot is she's skating anyway. So what will be will be I suppose.

Does she actually know how to skate/is she a competent skater? Because if not then she is more likely to fall and do more damage to her knee and I wouldnt be happy about that, regardless of the fact she missed her sport this morning

I'm a figure skater, I wouldn't have risked it with a knee injury personally, but she'll have to deal with any queries from football teammates or coach if she's skated anyway.

YABU, she’s 13. If she goes skating and then finds it’s worse and she can’t play football for a bit longer does it really matter? Sport should be for fun at that age. Kids have enough pressure in their lives with school/homework/social media/puberty etc etc.

@historysock

So did you say she couldn't go and she went anyway?

Or was she still at her dads?

Or did you give in and let her go?

She was still at her dads. I didn't have that much say in it in the end.
Perhaps I am being dumb to kick up. But football is a huge part of her life. She has been playing since she was 8. Lately she has been disinterested in everything except her phone. It was the one thing she was engaged in. Plus I'm big on if you have committed to something you should do it. If she's committed to her team which she did then she should in my option not just be able to sack it off on a whim. She has had the option to quit and not taken it. She will be upset if she is dropped.
Plus she is ignoring what the dr said re resting the leg if it's still hurting. It seems to me you can't really have it both ways.
But it's done now I guess.

I agree that if she's a decent skater and she's taking it slow she'll be fine.
Skating isn't high impact like football can be.

And I can see why she wouldn't want to go at all if she wasn't skating.
Sitting at the side of the ring freezing on your own while you're friends are having fun sounds miserable.

We used to spend more time trying to pull the older cooler lads than actually skating when at the local rink OP.

She skates at most once a year. She isn't particularly great by any means. But no matter she has been and gone and she can deal with whatever, if anything, comes back to her as a result.