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AIBU?

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To be unhappy with this colleague?

4 replies

Theinconvenienttruth · 16/11/2019 13:40

I work in a law firm where junior colleagues require senior feedback for progression. One senior colleague isn’t always the most supportive but asked for upwards feedback, which I provided. I was honest but polite. Rather than saying I would love to work with this person going forward / they have been instrumental in developing me (which wasn’t the case!!), I went for a more measured “I worked with xyz doing this... They enabled me to get involved with xyz pieces of work and explained things well etc...” I didn’t say I would want to work with them again cos quite frankly I don’t! They have asked me to say this on previous pieces of feedback for them, I obliged against better judgement.

This is not the usual procedure (upwards feedback) and clearly they thought I would be extra nice.

Since the above, they have ignored my emails asking them for downwards feedback. Aibu to think this is really unfair and poor practice?!

OP posts:
Butchyrestingface · 16/11/2019 13:43

It is, but surely you can ask someone nicer else for feedback?

Thehop · 16/11/2019 13:45

Can you email someone senior to them to ask? Or cc them in?

MsRomanoff · 16/11/2019 13:46

I hate all this 'ask colleagues to write a statement of feedback for you're it always causes problems.

Your manager should know if you are good enough or not. It's a cop out.

I get its annoying. I get that you were honest, but if you arent going to play the ridiculous feedback game, dont expect favours.

Inlawsoutlaws · 17/11/2019 13:28

Definitely not fair

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