Restraining order

[debrakate12]

Sorry if this is long, my husband arrested in April charged with assault in me , I gave evidence he was found guilty ,fined .no restraining order granted. So he came home. 5 weeks later , on the day my dad died he assaulted my 15 yr old son. Again arrested charged. Court date 30th October, me and son to give evidence. Went case postponed he told court he needed more time to get his defence sorted. Social services working with kids got them talking therapy. New date set for 13 th December right in the middle of sons Mick GCSEs so I have requested a new date. Just had an email from a solicitor ,husband requesting he sees daughter 13 yes old, even though no contact is part of bail conditions. Social worker says he needs to meet with her to be assessed and do anger management classes. As my daughter witnessed these attacks. I am out of my mind in case the court do not give a restraining order at the next hearing. I can not apply to family court for any orders because he is on bail.

So you are saying a man who has been convicted of being physically abusive is being allowed contact? Social services should carry out an asessment first. Does your child want to see him.

My daughter has repeatedly told social services she does not want contact. It says in the bail conditions no contact. The social worker is meeting with him next week. He denies the assault happened, even though he charge and waiting trial.

If your saying the social worker is trying to force your daughter to meet the man who’s bail conditions ban him from seeing her and is subject to an ongoing second court case for domestic violence then I would lodge a formal complaint against them for putting your child / family at risk.
I would attack them through their management, the court who imposed the bail condition, councillors and any professional body I could find.
Note - this position is not based upon knowledge or experience, rather simply bloody minded fury and protecting my family.

Honestly sometimes (although I work in this sort of industry and couldn’t say this in a professional capacity) I just want to tell some women to just run and move somewhere with the kids where he doesn’t know where you are and disappear, because people let people down and that’s the sad fact :( and courts, lawyers and social workers are all human and susceptible to being manipulated just as everyone else is. It breaks my bloody heart your poor daughter!

Contact your local woman's DA service.

They can help you and work as a third party for you. I re read your post SS are going to meet your child that's good.

Just say no. They cannot force the contact to take place